Stressed over work

[Lindsey14]

Anyone else get really stressed and anxious before or during work? Is there anything you do to calm yourself down? I always get nervous ill fail or something...

[guynfl2chat]

All the time. I feel like I just dont want to do it anymore. I am in a sort of a bad work environment and not motivated from a narcissistic boss. I think you have to search within yourself to decide if its the JOB or how you deal with the stress of the job. Everyone should truly enjoy what they do for a living and not feel overwhelmed everyday that they are going to fail or get fired. Feel free to reachout to me if you want to discuss.

[Lindsey14 in reply to guynfl2chat]

It's my very first job actually but ive been working since September

[TodayIs in reply to guynfl2chat]

100% agree with guynfl2chat. The same thing was happening to me and it took several panic attacks for me to realize that it was the environment that was stressing me out. Of course, I was also depressed and this job was easy to do, so I never planned on leaving. My body forced me to listen and I ultimately moved on. Listen to your body, I know it might seem like it's attacking you when you feel anxiety, but I've learned to look at it as my body communicating to me.

[guynfl2chat in reply to TodayIs]

Interesting you point out about the body reaction. Sometimes anxiety is actually telling you what to do. I find that in my case it is warning me this is NOT good for me. I just worry it makes me too sensitive to other situations.

[Hidden]

I can relate. A year ago I got promoted to doing ultrasound during surgeries. The doc trained me for that on the job and I was petrified. He would sometimes get pissy with me during a surgery and I would forget to breathe and almost faint. I would get so hot and sweaty a d my heart would pound. I would always get anxious the night before the surgery. It took an entire year of doing this nearly every day until my panic went away. I just started going in confident and said it will go fine and I will do my best and that's all I can do. It's easy now and I am starting to enjoy it. I get so anxious because I feel the need to be perfect at work. So much pressure that I put on myself. Try to relax and understand that the pressure comes from you. Just do your very best.

[guynfl2chat in reply to Hidden]

I agree, but know if you are in a toxic work environment that is not for you and plan your exit. I am glad you worked through your anxiety and now feel confident!

[Hidden in reply to guynfl2chat]

Thanks. I agree. I been nursing for 26 years so I know it's my passion but sometimes the job is not for you and you need to be comfortable where you work and hopefully really enjoy it.

[Mesatej]

Always

[admirablesloth]

every single day.

[Want2BHappy3]

Sorry your going through that, maybe counseling? Mines got so Bad I had to retire early I had a breakdown. Missing so much work I had to leave or I was going to get Fired? That was 3 yrs ago, I’ve tried going back to work, I had a of jobs I only lasted about a week in both. I do need to work money is running low and everything is going up. I’m looking to start counseling again, I had to stop because of finances. So look into counseling hope it helps? You won’t know if you don’t try?

[Dvlshygood]

Almost every day. When I become very overwhelmed, I go to the bathroom and meditate quickly. If someone is triggering, I limit my interactions with that person. I also share with my team if I’m having a panic attack. Our team has created an open atmosphere to speak about mental health issues and we support one another

[Lindsey14 in reply to Dvlshygood]

Thank you so much for replying❤

[14andahalfandstable]

Hello Lindsey14,

Sorry to hear about your issues, but it is your first job. At the end of the day it is only a job, they took you on because they think you can do the job, you also applied for the job because you thought you can do the job. Believe in yourself, you are only young, you will make mistakes, some silly, some a bit more major, but usually when your training or supervision has not been sufficient, training rarely covers all eventualities, unless you are in a very regulated industry like health care.

Want2BHappy3

I know where you are coming from, I worked in local government for 28 years, sometimes felt very uncomfortable, never knew what was expected of me except to 'act' 1 like I was happy all the time (not), 2 like I knew what was expected of me, which half the time I didn't, poor management. The last 6 years in a quite stressful job, call centre environment, with crap and very unsympathetic management, very bullying. I took redundancy, even though they said it wasn't a redundancy right up until the last day we had to decide if we wanted to 'reapply' for our positions where the hours where different/worse basically, we would have to do more services and get paid less, despite HR giving us our figures... I was the union rep for Gods sake. Anyway I left and decided I wasn't going to work for a while and never again in an environment like that, politics, bloody politics. I finally decided to work as a Home Nanny where I would spend most of my time with children, not managers, although one of the mothers wasn't a bundle of laughs, but we all live and learn. I hope you find a low level job that pays enough and doesn't stress you out. I'm thinking of applying for a checkout job at Tescos or Asdas or something if the Nannying doesn't pan out.

Good luck to you all Dee

[sayanything]

I still get stressed and anxious every morning. I like my job, but I never want to go. I’m usually sort of ok when I get there. I’ve been off for two weeks and I start back tomorrow. I have been anxious and edgy for days worrying about going back. Today it is really bad. I get it.

[Lindsey14 in reply to sayanything]

That's me 100%

[sudoremi]

I used to scream at my windshield each morning on the way to work and on the way home. This went on for over a year. It was a toxic, high stress environment. High pay but it was killing me. I actually liked the work but my boss and VP of my department prepared to divorce themselves of any responsibility as soon as something went wrong. This happened all of the time since we were there to fix issues as an IT department in a 400 million/year company. I quit, took a year off and now will be going back to work at a smaller company for less pay. The new place has a nicer culture. The money kept me at the old place for too long. I prepared to leave by having maintenance done on my house, eliminating all debt except mortgage and car payment. I also reduced expenses and saved money. I feel a lot better now, lost 25 pounds and I'm not angry anymore. Totally worth the paycut.

[tashaX]

Hi Lindsey, yes this happens to me. What helps me is 1. To accept that I have these feelings,

To calm myself - breathe focus on looking at something in close detail, get really interested - this can help Calm down in the moment,

Examine: reflect, journal : what is at the root of the anxiety?

Where do those fears come from?

Are they true?

What is the worst that can happen?

What can you do to prevent the worst?

What cAn you do to remedy the worst situation?

What attitude/feeling can you become to get the result you want?

Daily gratitude practice - and include things you are grateful for about yourself, and your qualities!

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Its normal to want to do a good job, and get nervous etc.. remind yourself, its good to take risks and we learn by failures, keep learning, and use your mistakes to improve... you are on the right track

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The other thing is sometimes it really helps to share your anxiety with someone you trust, and know you are not alone.

It helps to make friends at work, and look to support others and find out who else would love to have a friend they can confide in and get support from time to time.

Well done for reaching out!

Love and blessings to you, and if its gets to be that you are not able to get yourself back into action and at a peaceful place, do seek help, its worth it.

[Lindsey14 in reply to tashaX]

Thank you so so so much❤ I really needed this

[jo0267]

I’ve been off since end October and spent four weeks n hospital. I loved my job and ignored the heart attack four years ago and rushed back to work.

Now my anxiety is totally overwhelming.

I’m beyond help from a work perspective and despite loving my job, I’m having to call it a day.