EMPATH trying to survive in times of FRAUD

[CNDmoonchild]

I am an empathetic person and extremely intuitive. THIS IS HOW I HAVE SURVIVED. My fear is caused by not being heard. My heart hurts because it has been broken by the misperceptions. THIS has been my biggest challenge and I will not give up.

[PNIAuthor60]

I have lived with the same fear for a lifetime and your resiliency in not giving up is both a strength and a challenge I can only imagine.

[CNDmoonchild in reply to PNIAuthor60]

I am willing to share to those who feel the same experiences and fears as I have. Sharing is a way of healing. Loneliness is a cruel way of torturing people because of differences. Whatever happened to compassion and sacrifice for others to become better because of it. I just wish to be someine who can make people aware of what communication and teamwork can beat anything.

[conquestofhappiness]

I was an empathetic person too. so empathetic that I kept on using my resources to accommodate others but totally forgot where I should rest my own foothold. I ended up being pushed around quite a lot. One example was that one friend cried and told me how he was worried about his tuition. I lend him all my savings that time ($10K in year 2004) as he was in trouble. He took the money, never paid me back, just vanished together with our "friendship" that I'd place a value far more than $10K.

I am still a quite empathetic person now. But I have learnt where to draw a line to protect myself, my kids and my family from potential risks. I did tough up quite a lot, but I did not threw away my kindness.

However, one thing is totally different -- I am not afraid of being heard (it use to be my fear). If i kept on getting misperceptions from a give source, I'd define it as toxic relationship and I'd complete remove it from my life.

[CNDmoonchild in reply to conquestofhappiness]

THANK YOU. I am doing this for the first time. Sharing myself and my experiences to a group via on-line. I have developed a serious social phobia in the last 8 years. And now.... you have given me new energy and hope. Sharing is caring. I will start to be less afraid. When they told me fear was just" forced energy against reality "..... I had no idea the power of your mind. Now I am on the adventure of bringing my emotion (my energy in motion) and bringing in my self confidence and mind to keep it in check. Your input and advice is appreciated.

[conquestofhappiness in reply to CNDmoonchild]

Yes, I am now no longer afraid of not being heard. But this process took me a really long time period to build up. And i have experienced repeated disappointment, struggle and even anger before I could reach my current equilibrium. I grew up as a child and young woman with very low self-esteem. So toughing myself up is not an easy process.

I wish you all the best. Just don't give up. I admire your courage and action on building your own emotional peace your own way. Your own way is always the best way, the most suitable way.

[Dolphin14]

I understand your post based on the responses and your replies

I'm confused on the fraud part? I must be missing something. Can you elaborate a bit?

[CNDmoonchild in reply to Dolphin14]

I am a victim of gaslighting and retaliation for blowing the whistle. I have been used as a mask by the true fraudster or fraudsters.

[Dolphin14 in reply to CNDmoonchild]

Thank you for clarifying