For years, I was agoraphobic to the point that I didn't leave the house for weeks at a time; I didn't eat, I didn't shower, I didn't do anything but lay around and cry and feel like death. When people say to change "people, places or things," it's SO true. I knew SOMETHING had to change. My husband and I decided to move back to our hometown and be closer to my parents. It's been 6 months now and I am rocking it! Yes, I have my bad days, my ups and downs, my anxiety and sometimes feel low, but compared to where I was, holy moly!
I am sharing this because I truly believe this illness is awful but can be managed. I was ready to give up on medications. Nothing was working. I'm glad I gave them a try because I finally found a combination that works best for me. I get up early even if I don't want to, I shower and make it a routine everyday no matter how hard it is and I set up errands to do everyday. If we can change one of these three things, it does get better. We have to try. I chose to change a "place" which led to me changing things and people. I let go of people and things that were not making me feel good. I surround myself with my family who loves me and I have opened my heart to allow myself to love them and love ME. I am also proud to say I went after a job for the Mental Health Association in my County and I start Monday. I have been fighting for this opportunity for 2 months. I cant wait to help people.
As the Holidays approach, I want to thank especially this site. My dear Fauxartist and Kenster for being there for me through the heart of it all. And my other friends on here for replies and comments that got me through! I just want to share that if you are stuck right now, there is possibility to get out of it. It takes hard work and a lot of self improvement but making any change that is making you suffer is something that HAS to happen. I sincerely love you all and I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Love yourselves, Prove that you are worthy because you are and go for whatever it is that you want!! XOXO M
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well done you for perseverance and the determination to keep going as I say we can only give a little on here all the hard work is done by the likes of you who kept going even if it felt impossible.i know you had been down about the last job but it didn't keep you down you rose up for another challenge and came through it with another job and even a husband I would say that's turning a corner for the better and you should be proud of yourself.this time about ten month ago you probably never saw yourself as you are today so that says a lot about you.congratulations on all the good things that have recently came your way and for the future.
Awww my little lovebug <3 Thank you so much. You've been such a wonderful friend. I love our chats everyday. You are doing well too. And I am so proud of you. Love you always
I know. And you are a HELPER! I know you always want to take care of your family and friends. You have to always remember to take care of YOU too. I just try to live by that motto. It’s not always easy believe me. I love you Kenny 💜
You are definitely not the only one believe me!! I was watching the news and some popular football players took a step back from anxiety. It's everywhere!! My Dad used to tell me growing up he had anxiety too. This is definitely not something made up or just a handful of people experience it. It's so sad. I have a very sensitive heart and I feel when someone around me feels sad and it kills me. Half the time I don't know if I'm upset because I am feeling depressed or if it's because SO many people in this world are depressed. But, I'm glad my post helped a bit. Keep spreading the love!!
Thank you!! And I hope my smile goes out to you too. I wanted to share that this can be managed. It’s hard!! But, we have to keep pushing and pushing. All my 💜
Thank you so much for sharing! I have been in the same boat too, more than once. Currently doing well; for about 6 months now. Sometimes all I can do is put one foot in front of the other, but the steps add up.
I always say baby steps are an accomplishment and they do add up! They can turn into a routine, which is so good for us! I’m proud of you. Thank you for sharing. I’m sure you relate and that is so wonderful that you’ve been fighting!
Your first two sentences are where I am currently. I am the last of my family, no friends, no one close to me. My dear wife of 15 yrs. passed this last January and I've done nothing since. A couple times I thought I could muscle through and get my life moving again. But I can't. I'm too old, too broken down physically and mentally. There's no reason for me to be here. I'm retired on SS so...what's next? I dread awakening every morning to see the sunlight. I'm still here. Don't know how much longer this will go on. I have plans in place for the day I decide I'm outta here.
You endured A LOT my friend so how you’re feeling is absolutely normal. I highly suggest you get a therapist and maybe volunteer. I didn’t want to work. But my husband talked me into doing volunteer work for this charity in my town. It made me feel so good helping people. And I even made friends with some of the other volunteers. It’s not easy to get going I know!! But if you push yourself to do one event you’ll understand. Just make a promise that you’ll do ONE volunteer thing and see how it goes. I also would push myself to go for tiny walks around my complex and very small chores around the house. Obviously moving was what I had to do to get better but you can find your change too! It all starts with baby steps. And they are accomplishing! I was so hard on myself. That was a huge problem. You didn’t ask for this; you didn’t do anything wrong so why be hard on yourself you know? Don’t give up. There’s always good things to come and things now to be grateful for! And this site is awesome! I actually consider a few people on here my family. They helped me so much!! It’s all about connecting with people. We need each other instead of isolating. Find things to do so you’re around others. It will bring out the best in you!!
So much truth. I've a few more issues but I don't...can't see a therapist. All they do is talk, I've heard it all before. Give me meds which make it worse AND gain weight. I went down this road 30 yrs. ago. Same approach to therapy, same drugs. A few new ones that are chemically similar but still, nothing new. That we can have access to. I've heard ketamine does wonders for depression but have not heard of anyone being offered such in a clinical setting. Oh and it's a recreational drug so that's why. Anything that makes one feel good or different people seek so it's banned. Regardless of any anecdotal positive effects. Still cannot get over the agoraphobia. I'll even admit to going for weeks without bathing. I do brush my teeth though; the taste gets nasty. I'm a mess. Borderline personality disorder with a heaping helping of anti-social personality as well. I thank you very much, but at this time I feel this is no longer my world. Time to move on.
I’m sorry. I don’t want you to give up. I’ve been battling this for 30 years. I don’t know what sparked in me but I had enough. I used to not shower or even change my clothes for weeks. Definitely did not brush my teeth which bother me so much. I find getting up and doing those things now does make me feel better about myself. I wish I had the best advice for you. I just don’t want you to hurt yourself. You should give this site a chance. Give yourself a chance!! You deserve it. These demons cannot win. We just cannot let them!! They’ve taken too many people from this earth. We have to fight back! Promise me you won’t hurt yourself please!
I'm sorry but I cannot make that promise. It is not my nature. About 40 yrs. ago I made an attempt at suicide. OD on Quaaludes and slit wrists. Was found and Baker Act in the hospital mental ward for a week then sent home with no follow-up. Have done much research into suicide. It is not easy; the human body is a durable piece of equipment. Even a bullet to the head is not absolute. Remove the head, sure. Pills may work or just make you sick and puke. Cars run too clean to go the carbon monoxide route. My wife left medicine that I can use. A bit of mix-and-match with what I have or can acquire. I'm tired of pain. I'm tired of just being tired of every-damn-thing. Yeah I need help but I don't I can't...I'm not well.
Thanks! Weeks ago I got into the habit of drinking the fear or other pains away... I’ve used it off and on for a long time. I am happy today that I woke up not feeling as terrible as usual and having the strength I choose to go without today. So I’m good today. No matter all my problems I still am in control of some things.
Wow, your post was so inspiring. I am so happy for you that you figured something out that would help you. I have never understood this thing. I have a good job and living in a state where I have wanted to move to forever. My youngest son has moved here, unfortunately I am praying for a miracle for my oldest son who is incarcerated and was sentenced to 40 yrs. Unfortunately, I was going thru this before that happen but of course that just added to the unhappiness in my life. I'm just all over the place, however, I am very ecstatic for you.
Thank you :)) That means so much to me. I’m sorry about your son. It’s hard to not have control over those things. But you seem to be in a good place and appreciate what you do have. That’s all we can do in this tough life...appreciate what we have and change the things we can change. All my best Blue 💙
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