Odd situation

[jjsangel]

My situation is odd. My ex-husband turned out to be a child milestone and rapist along with being abusive towards me and our son. I divorced him when he got arrested for raping his sister when she was 12 and he was 21. I was single for quite a while and then this magnificent guy came out of nowhere and we hit it off well. I didn’t find out for quite a while but it turns out that he is a disassociated half brother of my Ex-husband. This guy was raised in foster care and has not ever associated with my Ex, aside for very few times through the foster care system when he was a child. When the new guy got to be a teen he was pretty much on the streets. Well the new guy is fantastic. Doesn’t drink, do drugs, not abusive, doesn’t smoke, and loves to work. He fell in love with me and loves my son from his “half brother”. He supports me and has so now for 6 years. They guys don’t look anything alike, nor do they act alike(thankfully)

Now here is my problem. If I don’t think about my stupid ex in the situation, my life is great with new guy. Ex-husband has never had anything to do with my son and I since little man was 3 months old. Little man is now going on 8 and knows that new guy isn’t biologically his fleas but has always called him daddy and thinks the world of him, they play games, build things, and do all kinds of stuff together) little man has never met Ex and does not know him besides having nightmares occasionally about a masked figure attacking mommy and him. I also have had 2 more children with new guy in the last 3 years. If someone finds out that new guy and Ex are half brothers, they call me gross and tell me it’s wrong. I don’t want to leave him. I love him, he loves us. He’s wonderful wit our kids. I need to know more views on this. I’m leading by more of a half glass full kind of view. Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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Why would it be wrong? He's his half brother, not yours. Many times, women have even fallen in love with a brother of an ex and it works. I would just worry about the ex finding out where you are.

[prince_cess]

I don't see any wrong in your situation. You love each other. And in your story, its seems like they are blood related but they don't act like one. So do not worry about it. Time flies and people will forget about it.

[Likeabadstorm]

You love him and he loves you and your child and now your own children togather. He is good to you and all of them. There is nothing wrong with the situation you are in now. And if someone wants to judge, that's on them. Not on you, your children or your husband...you and your family I happy and y'all are taken care of and treated with love and respect and that isall that matters. Your happy and safe within your home and the outside worlds judgement or views should not matter-you, your children and you husband are the only thing that matters. Don't let anyone ruin your happy life just because of the situation at hand. Be proud of your family and stay strongly United and if anyone has a problem with it, then that's on them, not on y'all. It sounds like your in a wonderful and loving relationship with someone that cares Loves and respects you and the family, unlike with he ex. So sorry about the ex and all you and you one child had to endur.

[Dolphin14]

Nothing wrong here at all. He sounds like a kind man. Enjoy your life together.

[cclun200]

If he is treating you and your kids well, and taking care of you, It does not matter if he is biologically related to your ex husband. the key to It is commitment, if he is committed, has he married you yet?