How supportive are your parents/loved ones?

[greymegan]

So I am 17 and still living at home (half the time and mums and half at dads). Recently I've really been struggling. So, for example, the other night I couldn't move off the floor for three hours and I haven't had a shower in a week. Last night, I got back from hospital and got a strange burst of energy. I cleaned my room, washed the pots and did some philosophy work. I told my dad, who doesn't actually care so I don't know what I was expecting, that I felt proud of myself for not stumbling in to a depressive episode again and he essentially told me that it wasn't good enough and that he is fed up of me being the way I am. I wasn't really that bothered because he's only every really told me to get over myself but I was wondering if that was a normal response for a parent? Or are they actually supposed to care about you?

[summersimmer]

Sorry that you're dad's not very supportive of you. But I don't think that how he reacts is normal. I think that it's normal that your parents care for you. In my case, my parents are very suppotive and concerned with my well-being and they like to be updated on my sessions and appointments with my psychologist and psychiatrist. I'm very lucky.

I think you're absolutely right to be proud of yourself and I'm also proud of you. Take care!

[summersimmer]

Wait, maybe it's not normal. But I do think that it should be. We all deserve care from our parents.

[greymegan in reply to summersimmer]

Yes that’s true. I’m glad your parents are so supportive. My mum has severe depression so she can’t really support me but she does try. I agree with you though, parents should be more supportive because it’s a lot harder to go through it alone

[summersimmer in reply to greymegan]

If you ever need someone to talk to, please do message me <3

[greymegan in reply to summersimmer]

Thank you, the same goes for you

[Mrspjsmom]

So sorry he acted that way. My husband and children are quite supportive and my best friend is too. As a parent I can't imagine speaking to one of my children that way. And it has nothing to do with my depression and anxiety. I always chose my words carefully when talking to them. For example I never said shut up it was always be quiet. Not saying I was perfect, I made my share of mistakes and had bad days. Still do but I quickly apologize and they know I love and support them no matter what. HUGS and BLESSINGS!

[greymegan in reply to Mrspjsmom]

Of course, it’s only natural to make mistakes. Your children are truly blessed to have such a wonderful mother

[Mrspjsmom in reply to greymegan]

I am blessed to have them too.

[Mrspjsmom in reply to greymegan]

Both of my parents had a rough childhood and died young. Mine was difficult too. I think that's why I tried to be a better parent for my children. If you ever need support please reach out to me. I would be happy to help. And you should be very proud of yourself for the way you handle your illness and for trying to explain things to your Dad.

[greymegan in reply to Mrspjsmom]

Thank you so much, you are doing amazing :))

[Mrspjsmom in reply to greymegan]

Glad I can help at least a bit.

[NeuronerdDoaty]

You are not responsible for what others don’t understand. For parents they have to face their own childhood, failures, and then face that they can’t do enough to help you. They don’t mean to be cold and indifferent. He doesn’t understand and he’s afraid. Again though it’s not your responsibility to enlighten him. The best thing you can do is keep on patting yourself on the back out loud and he’ll figure out that’s what you need from him as well. Sometimes us parents have a long way to go but patience and love take us a long way.

Sending you peace and patience

Doaty💛

[greymegan in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

Thank you for that. He has had a pretty rough childhood and has suffered quite a lot so it’s only natural for him to be emotionally disconnected I guess. You are right though, I suppose I just need to give him time, I didn’t realise how much time he needed though

[Careyon]

Sorry you’re not getting the support you need from your parents. Parenting is tough and doesn’t come with a handbook, but I’m sure they love you dearly. We want what’s best for our kids but don’t always know how to give it and sometimes just plain ole use the wrong words and judge too harshly. Have you told them you need more love from them? Maybe you have to show them what you need. Give them a big hug when you see they’re having a bad day, or just for no reason other than you love them. I pray for the help I need. Not sure where you are spiritually, but I’d say give it a try. Pray and ask God for his help for you and your parents.