Hubby leaving

[Whererunormal_29]

So my husband is leaving out of town tomorrow for work for 5 days and my anxiety is going crazy just thinking about it. I'm so codependent on him idk what to do when hes gone! I'm diagnosed with general anxiety disorder. I think I'm gonna lose it!!

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You will be OK. Find things that make you happy like giving yourself a facial, a hit bath, a good Netflix binge. Stay busy and you will see you can make yourself happy independent of him.

[Agora1]

I agree with Melhall in that you will be okay. The first day will always be the hardest.

Once you see that you can and will get through it, it will get easier. You will have the

forum to help you through these next several days. There's always someone on 24/7.

This will be your "me time" while he's gone. Work on becoming less dependent on him.

Watch some videos on YouTube on Co-Dependency. You may find some ways to help

rid yourself in having to lean on someone for support. We all need to be our own person

in time. I'll be watching over you. It's going to be okay. xx

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Map out your days what you’re going to do for the next 5 days. Send him cheerful messages but not all day focus on doing things rest and cooking tv shows cleaning put away your phone play music and go for a drive if you drive and go look at Xmas stuff or start baking cookies for the holidays ! Make it a holiday for yourself and plan away. Tell yourself you’re proud of yourself and mean it

[hippieebbbz09]

Don’t think you’ll go nuts. First, be calm, love. Next, follow everyone’s advice in the comments!! I totally agree to plan your days and do something fun & relaxing or also, productive. I could assume he’s your safe person , but you must learn to be your own safe person. I know it’s rough, because with anxiety, you can feel like you’re your own enemy but it’s NOT true. You can be calm and be relaxed and be safe . You can. It’s a process but you can do it. Message him every now and then , to get reassured you’re fine ,and to know he’s always there , but do focus on relaxing and having alone time . It can be fun. Call friends and other family ,too, if things get rough. But, you want to ultimately focus on learning how to be there for you. It’s not the easiest thing to do , so even if it’s for the first two days you can be alone , do so & if you have to, see friends or family . But, for now, try to focus on being there for you. You’ll be ok. I’m still learning to be my own safe person. You aren’t alone . Also, this forum is an awesome place to vent if you must.

[Browneyes921]

Everyone is giving great advice to help you with passing the time while he’s gone. I would add that getting outside may help you. I find that being out in nature helps relax me when I am anxious. Another thing that relaxes me is sitting and working on a puzzle. When my family goes out of town and I am alone, I will start a puzzle; it is relaxing and takes up time. Maybe make a lunch or movie date with a friend or family member. Try to keep busy and take it one day at a time. ❤️

[Dolphin14]

Great ideas from everyone. I'm sure you will be ok.

Take care of yourself.

[Pamela2876]

I am so sorry you are facing this. I know what it is like to be co-dependent. I struggled with it much of my life. I found a book that was essential in helping me break free called "Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. If you get a chance check it out!