Post + Reply + Reply back = Backfire

[deadmanwalkingSCH]

Writing a post is difficult for me. Trying to explain what's broken in my mind and life is even harder because I am an idiot. Just joking I'm just stupid Then waiting for someone to reply and cure me. Now BACKFIRE because knowing I have to reply back, if I don't I am a bad person, but what do I say, how do I thank them for everything. Why did I write that post because when I send it I know that I will have to reply back or they will hate me? Wait I didn't send it yet. Now I'm talking to myself again. What do you think I did. = Backfire

[BrainFog-Ninja]

Hi deadman, 😳 Oh my!

Step 1–take any meds you were suppose to take today, and haven’t. Lol. Maybe also consider cutting back on the caffeine just a bit, if that is an issue for you. 😂😂

Step 2-slow down, & don’t over-think it,

Step 3-post your thoughts, feels, best you can explain, whatever you want to release from your guts!!

Step4-when someone responds, say thanks for the reply, and anything else you might want to add to that is a bonus. No pressure.

Uhhhh... Pretty sure that you aren’t going to get a post that “cures” you...so let’s don’t wait for that... Maybe back down and relax those expectations a bit. Best you can hope is to have others relate, identify, support, empathize, and offer experience, insight, feedback, etc. And don’t underestimate the therapeutic value of articulating your situation, and what’s on your mind. It can work wonders!!

Step 6-try to be gentle on you, and not judge yourself harshly for what you do, or don’t do. Pretty sure none of that you mentioned, makes you a bad person, and if people hate you bc you didn’t respond...that’s on them. That’s not likely at all. Do what you can with it. Everything gonna be alright.

P.S. you are the expert on how you feel, so no stupidity there. Read for what applies, and make makes sense to you, and your situation, don’t worry too much about the rest of it.

...and talking to yourself? As long as you are listening as well, that’s a measure of great intellect...I think (mostly bc I do the same). 🥴😂

Did you figure out what happened to your post? Did it get sent?

[hypercat54]

Hi I agree with ninja that there is no magic wand or words that will 'cure' you. Why would anyone hate you if you don't reply? It is common courtesy though if others have taken the time and trouble to respond that you acknowledge you have read it. No one likes being ignored - do you?

Also if you don't respond then people will stop replying to you as what's the point? x

[Agora1]

deadmanwalking, great response from BrainFog-Ninja...

I'll just add a "hug" to let you know you are cared about

on this site. xx

[GodinHealthcare]

you're not alone. I'm praying for you

[fauxartist]

Most people post because they do want feedback. Some don't comment because they don't like being ignored when they take the time to try and help a poster. It's a catch 22. I would say don't worry about it, nobody has the answers for you specifically, we can only share our own experiences. Nobody can fix us, and unless we make the choice to do the work on ourselves, we stay stuck. Just take what you need and leave the rest. I've learned not to expect a response, and also some people have said they got no help from what others have suggested. Well, then probably those people need to find other options as well like therapy, etc. if they are not getting what they need here. I just see this site as another tool in the tool box.