Sunday

[wiserlady]

Is anyone so busy with family, work, chores, commitments, real life, that they rarely have a chance to sit down and relax and do what they want to do? Sunday is special to me for that reason. In fact I would die of boredom if I did not have much to do most days! I know someone who spends all day long every day just reading and watching television, the same every day.

[TrustnGod]

Hello wiserlady. YES! I’m a student and I work full time so I’m away from my hours for 18+ hours a day. I’m only ever there to sleep and shower. Sunday’s are my rest days as well!

I definitely would go insane if I didn’t have stuff to do. When my anxiety was really bad I was at home ALL the time. I would go crazy some days but I didn’t want to move. I’m not sure how people can just relax like that everyday.

~Lia

[wiserlady in reply to TrustnGod]

Sometimes I wonder if it is a chicken and egg situation. Some people do nothing at all all day, then they focus on how empty their lives are, their day is much longer, they dwell on every little thing like whether it is raining or cold or they have a slight headache because they have nothing else going on to concentrate on or think about. Doing the slightest thing takes them ages or they do not do it at all, then they have nothing to talk about, then they have no friends, and it is a vicious circle.

[Agora1]

Balance is the key to life.

Enjoy your Sunday wiserlady xx

[wiserlady in reply to Agora1]

Yes balance is vital. Too much time to think and feel and people with anxiety get worse and worse and never achieve a thing. Just a very boring empty lonely life. Being too busy and we never have a chance to laugh or enjoy nice things.

[Agora1 in reply to wiserlady]

I guess it comes back to "take time to smell the roses" xx

[wiserlady in reply to Agora1]

Yes agree. Too much time to do nothing is a killer - your brain dies. No challenge. Nothing to worry about makes life too easy. Then you worry about nothng at all.

[Daisymom]

Yep… Spent the better part of the last 45 years doing just that. Be careful what you wish for because you might just get it… When all the urgent obligations were removed from my life ...I had time to really sit and think about the consequences of everything I had ignored and had to deal with...And I’m one of those people Who used to conquer everything and now I’m rendered useless in bed all day… Truly balance is the answer but I don’t I think it’s an easy thing to find. If I had a choice I go back to being too busy to worry

[Sprinkle1]

Hello wiserlady, I say to each is his/her own. I like to have things to do, but that is me I have an inquiring mind so TV and laying about are not in my books, but it seems that is how some people function. Some people are not too bright, some are lazy or unmotivated we are an interesting bunch us humans. Glad to see you writing I have been thinking about you. Sending Love, hugs and things to do.....Sprinkle 1.....

[wiserlady in reply to Sprinkle1]

Yes I agree Sprinke1. To do nothing other than watch tv and read books that others have written would turn me into a vegetable.

[wiserlady in reply to Sprinkle1]

Anyway Sprinkle1 I am very much into the theatre and certain things on tv, so my enquiring mind makes sure I find out about those things, I dont just sit there watching things and let them do all of the work. I know what is going on, who with, why and all the rest. My grandmother got dementia and my mother got dementia because all they ever did was sit at home watching television, reading trashy novels and easy to read magazines and nothing else. They had no real idea of the World,the people in it, how things work, how to solve a problem or make a decision, they just expected everyone else to do all that. And of course nobody wanted to visit them as they had nothing to talk about, no news,no opinions, nothing.

[Snowyowl23]

Yes I totally agree! My husband and I are in school full time and we both have minimal time to ourselves. However we try our best to take breaks and spend time as a family. Something as simple as playing a game, watching a tv show or taking a drive helps break up the grueling day to day routine. And Daisymom hit it spot on... be careful what you wish for! I always try and take a moment to be grateful that I’m (relatively) healthy, I have shelter, clean clothes, food and a loving family, a good job. Some people don’t even have those things...

Have a great Sunday! Take a moment or two for yourself, drink your favorite beverage and relax!! Caring for yourself is just as important. 🦉🦉

[wiserlady in reply to Snowyowl23]

We seem to be on the same page. I make sure I do that every day, also mindfulness, brain puzzles, working with my brain a lot anyway, relaxation techniques and much more. It doesn not seem worth getting up in the morning just to do nothing.

[Booklover0219]

I’m very busy. I try to balance things so I can also relax. I have noticed that one of the things that makes me tired is if I spend a lot of time focusing on how tired I am. Then I start to resent daily chores and errands and I know it’s my own mindset that is making me tired and causing me to have difficulty balancing my life.

[wiserlady in reply to Booklover0219]

makes a lot of sense

[Booklover0219 in reply to wiserlady]

I’n having a hard time snapping out of it. I really have to push myself.

[1973m]

Hi , I was always busy never stopped , everyone took me for granted! I felt guilty for sitting down . Lots more happening besides but I’ve left I’ve got my own place .. but I’m lonely, I miss the hub of family life .. but not the marriage or being a skivey and getting no thanks.

But I’d still take busy over sitting and twiddling my thumbs .

Hope you’re ok now

[wiserlady in reply to 1973m]

what a brave person you are to make that change and do something instead of just making do. seems you cannot win either way with good or bad whatever you choose. personally i wouldnt be able to stand people taking me for granted and only wanting me because i do stuff for them, think id have said no a lot..

[1973m in reply to wiserlady]

Thank you so much .. not sure I’m brave , just driven that life surely will be better in the long term.

[wiserlady in reply to 1973m]

That is a very good way to see it, not easy to sometimes. It is saturday morning here in the uk, raining and dark and dreary again. We were due to go out to a firework show later, but dont think I will bother, not up to it and feel more like just being at homed idn the quiet. Have been working and watching films.

[wiserlady]

which stuff is fun? not sure I UNDERSTAND this ?

[wiserlady]

comedy drama thrillers, horrors, all sorts. i choose it according to if a good and favourite actor is in it.