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Having some of the hardest times I've ever had.

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I have really been trying so hard to follow everyone's advice, being mindful, using every coping skill I can come up with.

Have been to doctors, the local behavioral health service, everything!

These physical symptoms are unrelenting, nobody gets it! All day every day, every second...I'm losing my mind! Everything in my life has ground to a halt, I'm a burden to my family and friends, people avoid my calls and texts, don't get me wrong, they just dont know what to say or do.

Me either

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I understand. I’m sorry you’re going through this and I know what it’s like. Hang in there though. Don’t give up on yourself. Have faith in yourself that you can do this. It can feel the worst right before it finally starts to get better.

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Timmypliskin in reply to Booklover0219

Thank you

Have tried not fighting the symptoms by accepting that 1) no doctor or ER has found anything wrong 2) the more you give power to your anxiety the harder these symptoms will be and the longer and harder it is calm down from.

Agora1 wrote something pretty profound on one of your recent posts. Go back to that, go back to some of the older posts too.

I know you don’t want to be a burden or feel like that at least, you don’t want to drive everyone away, so my advice is sometimes we are just in our own way.

If you need therapy, are getting the wrong therapy, find a new therapist. If you’re on meds and they aren’t working, get different ones. Find all non medicated therapies you can apply. Not every technique works for everyone. For example deep breathing techniques for me never works.

Be a sponge and soak up all knowledge that comes your way, apply things you learn over a course of time if they don’t help, try something else. This doesn’t happen over night, as you know a lot here struggle, many can manage or are working towards what they can manage.

I hate to see you or anyone suffering so much, there are tools and resources to help. Spending months on end letting anxiety win, coping strategies will let you win more and anxiety lose more,

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Thank you , it's so difficult to accept, this has gone on for so long I am just worn out, every single day feeling sick and dizzy, for the last 13 weeks, every day, all day,

I do appreciate that they haven't found anything medically, but it just gets to the point that it builds on itself, and is out of control. I just need a break and every day I can feel it as soon as I wake up, its like being torchered all day, every day, at some point you crack. So full blown anxiety, depression, and with constant dizziness and nausea, ju st to keep me on my toes.

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And this has gone on for almost 2 years, with increasing symptoms.

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2 years being like this and your getting worse symptoms. No one should have to handle this with all the meds, therapy and non medicated coping mechanisms that are available now. Could be you are at a point you need extensive care not available in a routine dr or

There just comes a point that you don’t leave a doctors office until you are heard and/or referred to an appropriate doctor if the one you are seeing isn’t the right one. ER doctors can make referrals and even appointments for you if need as well.

I hope you find relief soon.

Everyone's different you just have to find your own kind of coping skills, something that works for you, books, writing are mine, and gardening too. You just have to find something that brings you even just a tiny little bit of peace of mind

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Dreamie

I’m so sorry you are experiencing such awful terrible anxiety. I can so relate. And also to feeling like a burden on my family and others. I too have been to the ER only to be told “it’s just anxiety”.

Recently I was admitted into a mental health day treatment program. I’m on my second week now. It was unrelenting anxiety that put me there. I got so bad I could no longer do my job and I was crying hysterically without much stop.

In treatment I have had my medication looked at and adjusted. I’ve also had many hours of group therapy, coping skills classes, individual therapy and even yoga and art therapy. It has been no picnic that’s for sure but I am gaining insight and confidence and skills that I believe will help to eventually make my life much better.

I wonder if there is a program like this where you live that you could check into?

I will tell you something I have been told to try and do for my anxiety that is counterintuitive to what I normally do and probably many people. I’ve been told that rather than resist the anxiety...like me I have a meltdown and hyperventilate and get all panicky...”lean into it and ride it out”. Sounds crazy, I know. But from what they tell me, when we resist (however we individually do that) anxiety naturally resists back causing even more tension. I think the suggestion was to acknowledge that it’s there, keep breathing normally or even take deeper breaths, don’t try and make it go away, but just as calmly as possible ride it out. Let it be there. It should pass more quickly this way than getting all upset about it and fighting with it. Just one thought. I tried it the other morning. I did a meditation but only with the intent of maybe easing some of the physical symptoms of shallow breathing and muscle tension. I sat with the anxiety for about an hour. I did cry. Just not the hysterical kind. And it passed after about an hour. Which was good for me because sometimes I carry it with me for 8-11 hours continuously.

I’m sorry if I am rambling on. I am actually trying to offer you a little support and hope and express my experience for my own benefit too. Writing is therapeutic to me.

Your doggies are adorable! I truly hope you get some good help with your anxiety. I know how bad it sucks! And I don’t think we are as much of a burden as we think we are on our loved ones. You’re right, they don’t know what to do and probably don’t understand. But they love us and support us anyway the best they know how.

Love and prayers.

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Timmypliskin in reply to Dreamie

Thank you for taking the time to share, it does help, and I understand that it helps to put it out there as well.

I'm at the point where I will try anything and everything.

It's so hard to believe that there isn't something wrong, physically. Just feel like I'm going to die.

I hope you continue to feel better and hang in there.

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Dreamie in reply to Timmypliskin

I questioned my therapist today about whether it might be something physically wrong with me especially due to how it just comes and goes out of no where it seems. I’ve been checked by doctors and had blood work done. All looks fine. In my case, my therapist thinks that I have pushed down some very vital things that I need in my life and this is my body’s way of getting my attention. I know everyone is different. He is right about me though.

You please hang in there too. Hold on to the moments that are good and keep seeking the treatment you need.

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4aReason

What's wrong?

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19Ryan86_

I know exactly what your going through. I have just quite talking to anyone about it except ,God and my therapist. They don't understand and of course the never will unless they walk in my shoes. They can't help us. Be easier on yourself, and your friends, and family. Get to a good therapist. I had to try out 5 before I found the right one. Good luck to you ❤️

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Timmypliskin

Thanks for replying everyone. Good luck to us all.

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