Worst day ever

Today I feel very down. Phoning helplines etc. Beginning to feel is this struggle worth it. Can anyone suggest how I can try and cope. It’s no life every day waiting till the evening when you feel half normal.

[Dheeya]

I’m soo with you,I feel so down and currently at work.

[Hidden in reply to Dheeya]

I can’t do anything. Least you go to

Work. I so despondent

[Dheeya in reply to Hidden]

I’m at work but my mind is far from work.i hope your day gets better! Stay calm&put. We’ll all be alright

[PNIAuthor60]

Sorry to hear that you are feeling so down - I would first like to know if you have nourished your brain and body with some type of breakfast?

You are worth the effort it takes to get through everyday - no one else sees the world the way you do and that is your contribution to this world.

What are the things you like to do - hobbies, interests? I find that when I allow myself to be swallowed up by how I feel, I get lost in those feelings. Yesterday, I was feeling as you did and took myself into a Clinic offering counselling on Thursday evenings in the area where I lived. In one hour the counsellor had me oriented to the present moment and able to see my life in a much larger perspective than simply how I was feeling. She even told me I was "amazing" that in spite of the many tragic things I have encountered, I am still doing so much in spite of those things.

Do you have friends or family to whom you can talk? I sometimes take myself out for a cup of tea and people watch, often a stranger will initiate a conversation and I find myself enjoying spontaneous dialogue.

We're all different in how we manage our depression - what is different about the evening that makes you feel "normal?"

We can choose our thoughts - so you could do something out of the ordinary instead of being swallowed by your feelings, it won't be easy feeling as you do perhaps but if the tiniest step forward will change the quality of your day.

I wish you brighter moments today.

[Hidden in reply to PNIAuthor60]

I have granola I make but sometimes it’s about 12 before I take it. Funnily enough I like to be in a coffee shop. That is good you can go to a Thurs clinic. I have a Counsellor which helps for a wee while. Today I did a bit of retail therapy but I couldn’t make a decision. To be honest I felt I was in a nightmare. It’s now just after 10pm and I don’t want to go to bed in case I have another day like today.

Thanks so much for taking the time to think of me and reply x

It would help if people put the country they were in

[PNIAuthor60 in reply to Hidden]

I am in Ontario, Canada

[wiserlady]

What is so depressing about the day time but fine about evenings?

[Hidden in reply to wiserlady]

Daytime can be hard. Seem to begin to relax towards evening but not today. At my wits end trying to get this anxiety attack away. This has been the day from hell.

[wiserlady]

Panic attacks are awful but there are two types. One is where you are worried sick about something such as losing your job, not having a home, not having money to pay for food, etc. Then there are panic attacks where you shake and feel sick, shaky , cold, awful, and you do not know what is going on or why but it is all physical. Which one is yours and how do you explain it? Neither of these fit with it being ok in the evening and you knowing that hours before. You cannot control when they come and go or know it beforehand. The best thing to do is focus on something nice or relaxing, the more you write talk and focus on it the worse it gets. Right now you are feeding it and enabling it and letting it flourish.

[Hidden in reply to wiserlady]

I think I get severe anxiety. I get very tense and it paralyses me. I now have a serious health worry but I had the depression and anxiety before that. I know you should face the anxiety but it seems to have got in before me

[wiserlady in reply to Hidden]

you arent answering what sort of anxiety - whether its mental, emotional, physical. if its that severe you would be able to describe it as a tangible thing.

[Hidden in reply to wiserlady]

Sorry. It’s mental attached to my depression. It’s like my whole body goes rigid. I can assure you it’s tangible and a bloody nightmare

[wiserlady in reply to Hidden]

And what does your doctor/ therapist say about how to cope with it? I presume this is not the first time? And it doesnt stop you from thinking and typing on here. Fighting it doesnt work. And most are prepared for what to do next time. Phone a friend or help line or arrange to see a therapist or take a magic pill or whatever.

I went through a similar phase for a bit, and felt far too ill to type on here then.

[Hidden in reply to wiserlady]

Typing passes sometime for me. Sometimes when I feel bad I can’t type. It’s 10.30pm here and I’ve relaxed slightly. Some people are still holding down jobs. I couldn’t. Next time I’ll try the magical pill. Just realised shouldn’t be on screen before retiring to bed.

[wiserlady in reply to Hidden]

Nobody should be on screen befrore going to bed, but you can get something put on your computer - just download an app - so it doesnt affect you late at night. With real anxiety you would find it impossible to sleep anyway.

[PNIAuthor60 in reply to wiserlady]

There's an app called IRIS that dims the blue light emitted

[Hidden in reply to wiserlady]

It’s mental

[Beevee]

Learn to accept the anxiety and stop trying to make yourself feel any different.

[Hidden in reply to Beevee]

I’m trying but it comes and paralysis me.

[Beevee in reply to Hidden]

Learn to be OK with that and not add further stress or fear because of the paralysis. It is yoyr reaction to the symptoms of anxiety which will determine the rate of recovery. If you add more fear, you stay stuck If you allow the feelings to come and accept them for what they are and do to you, you stop adding more fear and eventually breaks the cycle that is keeping you stuck.

[Hidden in reply to Beevee]

I’m trying to accept it but it’s as if it’s got its claws into me .

[wiserlady in reply to Hidden]

The best way to accept it is to do something else and stop thinking about it and dwelling on it. You are choosing to dwell on it. So you are not goign to feel better. YOu enable it.

[Beevee in reply to Hidden]

Accepting is not something you try. That sounds like it requires some sort of physical effort on your part and exhausting. I know. Acceptance, or allowing is all about the attitude. An attitude of not caring too much about how you might be feeling and not doing anything to trying to stop, suppress or avoid the thoughts or feelings. Being comfortable about feeling very uncomfortable.

[Hidden]

Something that I do throughout the day when my mind is wandering and I start to feel anxious or down is to remind myself of the things I love and that keep me calm. I look at a photo of a loved one or pet, or sometimes I carry a physical object with me that has a happy memory associated with it, or just something to pull me back into reality and help me refocus. Reminding myself that life goes on before and after hard times really helps me get through the day.

You can get through this!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your advice. Nothing cheers me up. Some days I even hate my darling cats. I seem to be having a prob with sleep. I’m waking up with a start and am wide awake. This morning it was 1.30am and then it was agitation all the way. Phoned the Crisis line. Usual stuff. Go out etc. Due a flu jag so have been. Hubby wanted to go for coffee but my makeup was just slapped on plus don’t think I could drink any. Now paranoid that my sleep is going to be awful from

Now on. I don’t know if it’s the Setreline which I was changed to recently. Think I’ve no fight left in me.