What if? Thoughts

Ok so I'm always scared of everything and I picture and overthink and obsess over different situations that I made up in my mind that are "what if?"situations.

I get paranoid alot. Right at the moment I'm paranoid about moving to my new place with my brother. My what if thoughts are of "Will we be safe in the new neighborhood?" "Are the neighbors nice or will they cause problems?" "Will I be panicking everyday from now on and never get used to the new place?" "Will my brother get better from his heartbreak and depression or will we both be unhappy and broken?" Among so many more paranoid stuff. So my question is how do you know "what if?" thoughts are just made up crap or it could happen and if it did, knowing you really just couldn't handle that, so you just stay upset knowing things are gonna get worse. I'm scared, like really scared. I'm not trying to sound entitled to great things. We all suffer in life and I pray for everyone, I really do. I'm gonna face alot of challenges in life, I know that. But with my severe mental disorders idk if I can survive life I guess you could say. I'm not gonna give up. But I might be damaged from challenges instead of it making me grow. Idk. I pray and hold onto God. But what if my life doesn't get better and takes a turn for the worse? I hope I explained everything correctly. Sometimes I have a problem explaining something and it may bother or annoy people when I didn't mean it to. I'm terrible at explaining how I feel. I know we all suffer so I hope you don't think I'm saying I'm entitled to a great life. I want everyone to have a great life, not just me. I pray for everyone in the world. I really do. Anyway God Bless you all.

[lillyofthevalley37]

You are fretting over imagined catastrophies

Things are never as bad as you fear they will be

This is a new start I hope it goes well x

[Hidden in reply to lillyofthevalley37]

Thank you! I'm trying to remain calm and not overthink. Thank you for reaching out!!

[Jeff1943]

There are no guarantees in life, FaithWarrior, no certainties. Some say that's what makes life so interesting: the not knowing.

As there are no certainties it's down to us to make of it what we will. That's why the G-man gave us free will, we make our own lives for better or for worse.

I'm sure your moving in with your brother will be a rewarding move. The neighbours will be fine.

The reason for your constantly feeling scared isn't down to any real threats, it's due to your nerves which have become sensitised by fear. In that state our nerves magnify every perceived problem or possible problem ten fold into an obsession.

When we move, most people hope they have nice neighbours. But they don't lose any sleep over it because their nervous system hasn't become over sensitised by the constant drip, drip, drip of fear hormone like adrenaline.

You over worry, if you don't mind me saying, and this causes fear that keeps your nerves sensitive which causes you more irrational worries causing more fear causing more nervous sensitisation causing more worries.

It's a vicious circle, but you can break out of it. If you could overcome your fears your nerves should return to normal and you could feel fine once more.

Fear is what's making your life a misery but it's fear of things that overwhelmingly won't happen.

I can tell how brave you are to cope with these bad feelings so I can remind you of the old saying: "The brave man dies once, the coward a thousand times!"

[Hidden in reply to Jeff1943]

Thank you for reaching out and helping me calm down. I'm trying not to obsess but it's honestly really hard not to make up situations in my head, it's on auto, my thoughts. But I'm trying. Thank you very much for replying!

[Bearhug24]

God bless you faithwarrior reading your post on anxiety and fear is like almost words that I feel constantly . Hope that makes sense , I feel your pain and totally understand , God bless

[Hidden in reply to Bearhug24]

Thank you. It's nice to have people to know exactly what I'm going through.

Of course I don't want anyone to suffer this. It's just nice to meet caring people. God Bless you too!

[Turtlegirl4]

I relate to your feelings so much..know you are never alone in your struggle. I've been a worry wart my whole life..stemming from very early childhood trauma and never learning how to cope with feeling uncomfortable. I've always obsessed over the "what-ifs" or what's happened in my past. I am still very much on my journey of healing and right now I am focusing the most on accepting myself. It's incredibly tough but it feels so right..I hope so much that you find peace soon