Progress!

[Kat63]

Today, my bf, L. had a sinus headache, and was quiet and withdrawn this morning.

For the first time since we’ve been back together (six months), I observed his behavior and my first thought was, “I bet he’s got a sinus headache. I hope he feels better soon.”

(As opposed to, “OMG, he’s so quiet and withdrawn! Is he about to dump me? Did I do something wrong?”)

I asked him if he was OK, and he said he had a sinus headache.

I spent NO time worrying that he was quiet and withdrawn because of anything about me. For me, this is progress.

[GlassPoodle]

That’s great! Victory!

[hypercat54]

Wow it certainly is x

[Hidden]

That is wonderful! It shows you are getting to know him better and learning to trust.

[Hidden]

Congratulations, that's very encouraging to hear.

[Hidden]

Yes. His moods are not your problem and you are not responsible. Big step proud of you.

[Nom-D-Ploom]

YAY!!