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[Highsteel]

Hello everyone I'm writting through tears as my mind races about being judged herar don't really know how to open up to anyone about my shameful fear of abandonment Anxiety and Depression I am so numb don't know what to do

[Agora1]

Highsteel, step back a moment and take a deep breath. You have found a safe place

to come to where there will be no judgment or put downs. I welcome you to a caring

group of people who can understand what it's like because they are going through

the same emotional pain. I'm glad you are here with us. xx

[Highsteel in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so very much that means a LOT!!!

[hypercat54]

Hi as Agora says no one is going to judge you here. We all understand what it is like and we support and help each other. Do you feel able to tell us any more about yourself? x

[LilyAnnepuppy]

Anxiety and depression are my middle names. Have no fear here. It’s a safe place with caring, knowledgeable people who freely offer their experience, strength and hope to others (agora1 and hypercat54, especially). Welcome to the community. Keep posting and let us know how you’re feeling.

[quitter333]

Question - why do you care about being judged?

What will really change aside from you spending your life for others not thyself, if you are not judged by anyone? Why should you care about what others think in their brain? What if most people are slightly insane and will judge you for anything, even if it's good?

There's no point in that.

Get your ass to work, and work on whatever feels right. Judging, dumb people will simply fear judging you if you achieve, and other people will admire you and will be your good friends, partners, colleagues.

And abandonment doesn't exist. When people vanish, you are actually better off because getting loyal people is by far better. I actually had tons of friends and at some point deliberately cut ties with those who were only toxic in my life. I gained new good friends that challenge me and make be better.