I'm new here...

I've battled Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, Depression & Anxiety for 19 yrs. a

I also lost my partner to cancer a few years ago.

I'm retired, children are grown. I find it more difficult to meet people. I'm isolating more. Sleep my days away, up all night.

I use to be a happy, positive, functioning person. I'm sad, cry often, do not know where I fit in this fast paced world, and feel alone.

I don't feel understood. I don't like feeling sickly or down. I don't know what to do anymore or who to talk to.

My new doctor wants to increase my antidepressant, but I don't want to.

Anyone else feeling lost & alone? How do you get through your days & nights ? Any advice I welcome.

Thank you

[Jesusgirl]

So sorry for your loss. I have struggled a lot over the years with taken antidepressants. I would take them then stop. It is so hard but recently I got really at one of my lowest points and decided that I had to do something. I went to the doctor I got meds for my depression and for my panic attacks. Monday I started seeing a therapist which I said I would never do. I still have bad days but I am better than I was. My medicine does make me feel a little spaced out at times. You may want to talk with someone even if you decide not to up your meds. Losing a loved one is so very hard and even worse when you are battling depression. I will be praying for you ❤

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Thank you ! I wonder if I need to change antidepressants? I've been to a few therapist, and then they leave so I have to try to find another. I haven't felt like looking, but I should.

I hope you have a blessed day !

[Passenger53]

Hi, sorry to hear you are not feeling fabulous. I have a similar problem and have basically been sleeping days for the last 5 months. Now I feel stuck . Am on a good antidepressant but am scared to go out into the world I think. Not sure what to do about this. Think might talk to my female Doctor. Anyway, about you , you don’t mention what city and country your in. Where I live in Australia there’s this online thing called Meetup . It has a ton of fun activities each day that you can attend. Most of the people are new to town, shy or like us maybe. Have a look and see if your city offers this socialising app. I love it. Would love to hear back from you. Sending positive thoughts your way. Bye

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Hi Passenger53 ! Thank you for your response. I live in America in sunny Arizona! Yes, we do have Meetups. Why I'm scared to go to one, I don't know. Some social anxiety I guess.

I too feel stuck! It's been ongoing for 5 months for me, too! I got a new female doctor. She did some bloodwork,,wants to increase my antidepressant. I like that she said, " What if increasing your medication helps you 20 percent, and walking only 15-20 mins a day, helps another 10-20 percent, would you try ?"

I told her yes. I still haven't been able to turn around my nights & days. So, I walk at nights. I also feed feral cats who are homeless in my apartment complex. I'm turning into the crazy cat lady !

I've always wondered what Australia is like. Maybe one day, I will get there.

Prayers for you and hugs ! I hope you have a nice day or evening.

[a_work_in_progress]

Hi Kitty

I first want to say I’m sorry for your loss I can’t imagine losing my partner at this point in time. But know you’re not alone I have a lot of the symptoms you’re describing. I understand how you’re feeling. Know that you’re not alone. You have found a good community here. One thing that I found it really helps me is just breathing. Sometimes I get so tensed up I forget to breathe. I’m talking a nice deep belly breaths. push your belly out and suck your belly in. I also try to think there’s always someone worse off than me sometimes we focus so much on our own issues that we forget how much worse A lot of other people have it. I hope you can find peace today. Hugs

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Thank you !

[art62grammie]

Sorry for all you are going through. Life is not always easy. Depression and loneliness are horrible. I am older too. I had been Anorexic for forty years. I became ill at 14. Now I have recently recovered. It will always be a daily process for me. Anorexics are depressed and lonely. My mental doctors are wonderful. If you need to chat please do. I want to help if possible. I take a small dosage of Sertraline. I have been on it for 6 years. It is great for me. It is a generic form of Zoloft. I wish you the best and chat anytime.

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Thank you, sorry you have endured anorexia. That's got to be hard.,

[art62grammie]

Thank you. Anorexia for sure is tough. It did not kill me so my recovery has made me a real trooper in the war. A soldier that I had to become to win. This soldier that I am now. Is the one that will keep me recovered. I hope you are ok.

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I, too, have made it thru a lot over the past 9 yrs. Not many understand, they ignore me, family & friends go on with their lives. I'm not sure yet what to do with mine...

I'm blessed I get to see my grandchildren from time to time. But, I still feel so empty & scared. I used to be strong, hopeful, positive...

Blessings to you, art62grammie.

[art62grammie in reply to Hidden]

Blessings to you as well. Even at 56 we still wonder who we are. It is crazy. It is a daily process for me to stay recovered after 40 years of Anorexia. I am a soldier. I will win. Keep positive and as my mental doctor said. LIVE FOR YOU.

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