Need to talk

[Phil176]

Need someone to talk to

[EleanorRose]

Hey ☺️ How are you doing?

[Phil176 in reply to EleanorRose]

Had enough

[EleanorRose in reply to Phil176]

Anxiety and depression can be exhausting. What’s been happening for you recently?

[Phil176 in reply to EleanorRose]

Split up with ex start of last year I have three kids too, then met someone last December, moved in in two months and weve argued tons especially as I still have a friendship with my ex.

So we split up last week and met to chat today and argued again over ex.

Plus I miss my tablets slot which she says when I don't take them I'm like a completely different personality, but when I take them I'm so caring and loving.

[EleanorRose in reply to Phil176]

This is a lot to deal with, particularly in a fairly short space of time.

It’s an unrealistic expectation that you wouldn’t maintain a relationship with your ex when you have children together. I am sure maintaining that friendship is in the best interests of your children and you are doing the right thing there.

What tablets were you taking?

[Phil176 in reply to EleanorRose]

I'm currently on 200mg sertralaine, 10mg amytripline and 10mg ramipril

[EleanorRose in reply to Phil176]

Do you find they help you?

[Phil176 in reply to EleanorRose]

Now and again, I've gone throught various antidepressants over the years and I've found times when I'm taking them I still get stages of low mood,

By the way the ramipril is for high blood pressure

[EleanorRose in reply to Phil176]

I think that’s normal. Medication isn’t always a complete cure. So much is going on in your life, it would feel overwhelming for many people, the added depression makes it more of a challenge to deal with. How are you planning on moving forward? Are you and your most recent partner going to stay separated for now?

[Phil176 in reply to EleanorRose]

She's gave me a week to decide what I want

[mysmugcat in reply to Phil176]

Sorry to hear these things. Do you still want to be with the mother of your children or not? I expect your ex partner feels threatened, though I understand you need to get on with her.

[Phil176 in reply to mysmugcat]

I don't want to get back with my ex we get on as friends nothing more and shes in a relationship with someone and I'm happy for her

[mysmugcat in reply to Phil176]

I understand

[EleanorRose in reply to Phil176]

Make sure you think it through fully but equally don’t feel pressured into a decision. Instinctively, do you want to be with her?

You might have to make compromises to make it work if that’s what you want.

I imagine you made compromises when you split from the mother of your children. It’s commendable that you’ve maintained a friendship with her and if that’s something you value, you need to be mindful of not jeopardising that.

Give yourself some space to really think about what you want, away from everyone else’s opinions. Only you know what is best for your life.

What’s the most important thing to you?