conflicted

[Learning_to_breathe]

I'm stressed about my relationship. I've been dating my best friend for almost a year ow and I've never been happier. But sometimes, I get this overwhelming urge to end it because some part of me thinks I would be better off alone. I'm about to start graduate school in a different state and part of me keeps wondering about our future even though I want to relax ad go with the flow. I don't know what to do.

[maslater]

My advice is not to over think it. Mindfulness may help you to live in the moment

[Learning_to_breathe in reply to maslater]

I think you're right, thank you!!1

[Hidden]

Just because you are going to attend college does not mean you need to give this person the heave hoe. Whatever you do keep a hold and remain in contact, why throw the baby out with the bathwater. It sounds like you have a diamond so do not give it away, you can still move on in a restricted way, I hope all works out well for you and your Friend

BOB

[Learning_to_breathe in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! I think youre right. If I stop overthinking it my relationship and my mental health will be better in the long run

[kvolm2016]

Do you think this urge might be rooted in the fear of the changes which will occur in your relationship since you are moving into a new season of life? Is there possibly a fear of him ending the relationship so you get the urge to do this first?

[Learning_to_breathe in reply to kvolm2016]

When I wrote this initially, there was a big fear. We both are in two different majors in 2 different paths for careers in 2 different states. It scared me a lot. But a recent talk with him made me realize that maybe me stressing about the future is not as effective as me just talking to him about my goals. When I asked him about his future, he sees me in it. It was nice and reassuring to know that i'm not the only one thinking about it

[kvolm2016 in reply to Learning_to_breathe]

Definitely glad to hear that you were able to have a DTR conversation like this. Do you feel like the 2 of you are on a similar timeline for possibly moving to whatever the next stage of your relationship might be?