Me

[itall40]

I’m terrified almost all the time. I have severe anxiety and worry about dying all the time. I get dizzy sometimes when I walk around out in public. I’ve been checked out by doctors and they assure me I’m healthy. It doesn’t help. I’m still scared. Nothing helps. I have three kids. Four, eight, and sixteen. I hate not being able to overcome this for them and my wife. Sad.

[Agora1]

Welcome to the forum "itall40". We may be able to comfort you by supporting

and understanding what it's like for you. We have all been where you are. Some

are still struggling but there are answers. There are methods that you can learn

to help yourself. Something had to prompt the scared feeling that produced this

panic feeling all the time. Feeling dizzy when you walk around in public could be

coming from you not breathing properly. When we are in fear, we either shallow

breathe, hold our breath or hyperventilate. Any of these can cause dizziness.

Being dehydrated can play into this as well.

As you tell us more about your journey, there will be others who can relate more

to what you are experiencing. I too used to have these fears both indoors and

when going outside. I actually became Agoraphobic for 5 years because of my

overwhelming fears. And yet, here I am today a full functioning person once more.

The key was simple once I was ready to accept my anxiety and find ways to calm

myself down. I'm glad you are here my friend. This is a safe place for you to come

when feeling overstressed. Together we all help each other get through the next

day. Stay positive, you are no longer alone. xx

[itall40 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you. I’m bipolar and am currently “down”. I always get down when I have something to remind me that I’m mortal. This time was have a couple of higher blood pressure readings. Nothing bad. 130/90. I’ve been down before but it is really bad this time. Sometimes it is hard to do anything.

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I know its hard but look you have a family with a kid in his/her teens, you are the leader and your family is counting on you, you need to set an example for your kids and you can set it up by opening to them about your problems, you will not only less your own burden

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your kids will get to know that in future if they have any problem they can always discuss it among the family.

Discuss your problem with them and some quality time with them.

Look you need to make your self strong because your kids soon will have their own problem (you know teenage issues and puberty, change in behaviour) they will be lost without a guide you need to be their guide and when I say to guide: you need to be a strong one.

You should be glad that you have a family to tackle this situation i know that you don't want to inflict your negativity on them by discussing this matter but that's what our families are for.

Don't fight it alone.

Do some activities which your kids like, laugh with them go on an outing with them.

Become the best dad and best husband in the world, all its need is for you to open yourself to them.

you are way more experienced then myself so maybe my answer may not help you but I answered this question from a point of view of a teenager, I guess I would give the same advice to my father if he is in the same problem.

We are here for you so stay strong.

If I have offended you in any way I am really sorry.

[itall40 in reply to Hidden]

No way you offended me! Thank you for your reply. I really appreciate your insightful words.

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Hi. I’m so sorry you feel this way. The thoughts of dying can be overwhelming. Try to just remember that you are here in this moment for a reason. Breathe in the love surrounding you from your children and wife and try to meditate on life itself. Easier said than done-I know. I’m here for you anytime. I’m sort of a night owl so feel free to message if you need an ear. You’re not alone in this.