So Lost

[Learningtodeal]

Hello all...

I am a newbie here...and for the most part I've never really experienced anxiety or depression before. Nothing beyond the norm anyway. These last few months have been extremely tough. Here's my story... My fiance and I moved twice in the last year for job purposes. Both areas are quite lovely, but we have nobody close. I don't know anyone nearby to talk to. I'm a very social person, and I need people. We have a beautiful home that we have been renting to a nice family...so we thought. The renters trashed our home and we are currently trying to work with insurance. On top of that, I was recently let go of a job because I wasn't a good fit. Truth is my employers wife made him fire me because it was just me and him in the office. The following week, my mother passed away. And now I have a tooth that needs to be pulled (I have no insurance and am saving up). I've been feeling heavy pressure on my chest and don't know how to fix it. And I've been drinking far more than I should (going on the wagon).

Any help or suggestions to overcome this sadness would be greatly appreciated! I'm tired of being in this funk. I seem to really stress when finances are involved. I'm currently in the process of refinancing my home...since I don't have the renters income, the pressure to make that mortgage is a real struggle.

Thanks for listening!!!

P.S. I have no medical insurance so the added expense of therapy isn't available.

Thanks for listening!!!

[quitter333]

stop drinking. like completely.

have a dedicated day off. tur off intwrnet any other people and just try to relax.

people lived through wars and famine. you probably can survive few bad things in your life.

So let. it. all. go. and you will getbto a better idea of how to approach problems much sooner

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Coming to this site is a good decision to start trying to go in a positive direction, with all these things at once it can feel very overwhelming. It helps to have the support of others that have similar situations or even just know how you feel. Here you will find that support and incite into your situation, like you said you’re going on the wagon and that’s a good start . Don’t try to fix it all at once( even though that’s what we want to do)

We’re here to listen and help when we can.

[FellowHuman]

Is there anything in your near future that you can look forward to? Anything to motivate you to keep going, because at least you'll have the relief/escape from your current situation if only for a brief moment? Or do you have any time in the next couple weeks to spare and spend on something you enjoy? like seeing a movie or working on a passion project or something that gets you out of your head? I know your life feels so bombarded by negativity and misfortune right now, but hopefully you can carve out some time to remember what it feels like to be carefree.

[CrownlessQueen]

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. Everyone here seems to be very encouraging. I love that!

Is there a dental program near you? I used to live in a place where you can get dental work for free or very low cost by going to the dental students. Or, there may be a free medical clinic in your area. There is no shame in utilizing those places.

Just take it one day at a time.

[All_alone]

Hi and welcome to the group and I am sorry for the loss of your mother. I really hope you find some relief soon for all of what your going thru. I have been there with renters in the past and it is horrible. There was one that I evicted and she still wouldnt leave and when she did I had never seen such a mess. Sometimes I find writing in a journal to be helpful. Are there any Meetup groups in your area? If so, maybe you could find one of interest and just be around other people for a short time to help get your mind off of things. And yes, I do realize the same problems will still be there but it just may give you a break. Being overwhelmed is never a good feeling. You always have this forum to share. It has helped me realize that I am not alone in my struggles because before I found this site I truly felt I was alone. Hugs!!

[Learningtodeal in reply to All_alone]

Thank you so much for your kind words and for not judging. It's been a rough couple of months...and I just got overwhelmed! I'm so glad I found this site! Normally I can talk to my sisters or my grown kids...but everyone has their own life. Not once has any of my sisters called...I'm the caller. They all live within 10 minutes of each other...I'm in another state. I know things will get better...hopefully sooner than later =)

[All_alone in reply to Learningtodeal]

I'm glad you and I both found this site. The last thing any of us need is judgement. I hope things do get better sooner. For me, it needs to be yesterday, but I know my situation will not resolve quickly but the plans are in motion and it will happen.

[Bluemusical]

You definitely have a lot going on, and I hope things get resolved. Sometimes finding a light at the end of the tunnel or making a plan on how to address the stressors helps with the sadness/funk.

I'm not sure of where you live or your financial situation, but have you looked into getting Medicaid (for talk therapy and to help get your tooth pulled)? Or sometimes there are counseling centers and dental services that offer free counseling or sliding scale services (you pay based on your income). United Way also has free financial coaching that might help you figure out the financial issues, or even known of resources in your community to help with this hard time.

[Missouri_86]

Please stop drinking it will make everything worse. I'm sorry your feeling so stressed. It's hard when everything piles on you at once. If you need people to talk to you came to the right place. I'm also a newbie and everyone has been so nice. I know how it feels to need to go to the dentist but can't because you have know insurance. It really sucks. It shouldn't cost an arm and a leg. Maybe you will get a better job. I know it's hard but don't give up. I will pray that things will get better for you. You just got to keep moving forward. You can get through it.❤

[Learningtodeal in reply to Missouri_86]

Thank you sooo much! I really feel the love on here! Just what I need at this point in my life =)

[akablonded]

Hello. I'm so sorry that you're in this "well" of seemingly bad events. I won't throw any platitudes your way, but it might help a little to look at these things separately -- not as tsunami of awful. If you can try to make small inroads into each situation (like making one phone call for a problem you and your S.O. are wrestling with) and keeping a log of everything you're doing. After a short period of time, you'll see that you've accomplished a lot. Also, I can't recommend enough taking a walk on a blue-sky day when you're feeling depressed. Even five minutes in a change of scenery can help. If you're affiliated with some religion, check out the churches; most have a "welcome to new members" group. If you aren't, there are libraries which always need volunteers. Guaranteed you can meet people there. Keep checking back here and tell us how you're doing. Take care.

[Chancalot in reply to akablonded]

Some church even have a mission fund to help in cases of emergency. But you should stop the drinking. That costs too!