As I mentioned I lost my Dad in february after 6 months of being ill, my brother lives 2 hours away and visited approx 3 times over that period, I worked 2 hours away and visited every night often all night then back to work, my sister is local and doesn’t work she visited 3/4 times a week. Bearing in mind my dad needed someone there, my nephew who lives local with his wife and kids never visited, my niece who lives an hour away visited every week.
I am sorry it’s confusing but I need to tell someone as I feel I am going mad. So when dad died I dealt with everything all the paperwork the probate paying everything etc. My siblings just stood back my sister suddenly was my best friend when I asked would her son like to rent dads house, I didn’t realise she saw pound signs I saw looking after family anyway everything is happy until probate is finished then oh they don’t want me to deal with anything anymore my brother wants to manage the money and they decide to let my nephew have the house rent free, they will do it up and then buy it apparently, what about dads other grandchildren they are not getting anything, and all decisions taken without me being involved, but my mum is still alive with dementia so she should get rent for her half! I wanted a proper contract to protect both sides but that’s not happening. When I was told, I said here is the key and I want nothing I have all I want which is memories and no guilt which they should have in bucket loads then today my nephew accused me of putting him through a rollercoaster! Am I really the bad person here, bearing in mind at my worse suicidal wise I asked for help from my sister and she said she would take me to drs I said no then she said she was busy and didn’t text for 24 hours this was once she and my brother had made the decision about the house but had yet to tell me. Neither has contacted me since
Now I know they are all blaming me but I don’t truly I don’t think this is me this is greed and selfishness on their behalf not mine oh and neither visits my mum just me.
Am I in the wrong, I was the youngest and closest to my dad so am I seeing it all wrong???