Why do I feel guilty?

[FindingTree]

I finally get things out instead of holding it in, yet now I feel guilty for expressing my feelings. Why do I feel guilty for letting someone know how they made me feel.

[JapaneseFuton]

Are you thinking you are being “selfish”? Are the people you are talking to accepting your feelings? Sometimes we see ourselves as reflected by those in response.

[FindingTree in reply to JapaneseFuton]

I feel like they didn’t really accepted my feeling but said they understood where I was coming from. After the conversation it was quite and that made me feel selfish because I felt like I hurt someone’s feeling.

[Celtic27]

Hi there I think you've got your feelings a bit mixed up you obviously needed to communicate your feeling to someone you maybe close to but you've done the right thing as carrying around these feelings are like a heavy weight and it is more harmful to you at least things hopefully things will improve stop worrying or you will continue a ever ending spiral I wish you well take care

[FindingTree in reply to Celtic27]

Thanks!

[Celtic27 in reply to FindingTree]

Your welcome

[hypercat54]

Because you are not used to taking your own needs and feelings seriously? It's not easy but you are doing the right things so well done. It will get easier over time. x

[FindingTree in reply to hypercat54]

Thanks! All my life I put others feeling ahead of my own no matter how it made me feel. Speaking up felt good but it kinda hurt. I definitely can’t wait till it’s easier

[hypercat54 in reply to FindingTree]

The more you do it the easier it will get. You have the same right (and duty) as anyone else to look after their own needs. It's much healthier for you too. x

[marheart in reply to FindingTree]

Go for it! You are on the healing path.

[marheart]

Did you hurt the other person's feelings? Is that why you feel guilty?

Is that what you intended to do?

[FindingTree in reply to marheart]

I did hurt their feelings but it wasn’t my intention. I only wanted to express how they’ve made me feel lately.

[marheart]

Do what's best for you. Take control of yourself whenever you can. There are enough times we can't control the situation.

Feelings are our reactions to situations. They did not make you feel certain ways.

When you feel those creepy upset emotions, handle them appropriate for the situation. You are responsible for yourself. If the other person is willing to discuss it with you, then go for it. Sometimes it's better to shut up and move on.

As I keep saying, I don't understand what I'm going thru. How can I expect an outsider without any experience in mental health be expected to understand.

[marheart]

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[SuZQ154]

I understand. When I used to tell someone how I feel or what I want, then I would feel "bad" because I felt like I was being selfish. The book "Boundaries" has helped me to feel less so! You might want to check it out. It explains that setting boundaries is what is best for everyone in a relationship. And, it gives guidelines on how to do it effectively. The book was so helpful for me and I hope it helps you. bit.ly/2J53Sxj