Anxiety attack

[volleyballandtrack]

This girl who is supposed to be my best friend is having a sleepover tomorrow and I have to go, she makes fun of me in front of everyone and even that I am taking medicine for depression and anxiety. She is my best friend when it’s just us but with other people or my friends she always points out my imperfections. I’m afraid that she will do something like that tomorrow. I fear of hanging out with my own friends because every time I feel pretty she some how takes away my confidence. Even with my real best friends.

[Hidden]

Wow that’s awful! One thing to keep in mind is that confidence comes from within. If you are truly confident about yourself, no one can take that away. She sounds like she maybe jealous of you. Making fun of you in front of others is a way she is trying to make up for her own insecurities. Next time she does this, you can say something like “wow, that was rude, and not appreciated.” Give her the cold shoulder until she learns you are not her emotional punching bag. Affirm yourself and most of all, drop people like this who continue to hurt you.

[volleyballandtrack in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much! Next time I will stand up for myself, and I will work on my confidence! It is so nice to talk about stuff like this and get help from people who understand! Thank you!

[Hidden in reply to volleyballandtrack]

I’m so glad to hear you will stand up for yourself next time! You are an awesome person and don’t need to put up with this abuse from a so called friend any longer! Be confident in yourself and willing to walk away from people who mistreat you. Don’t be afraid, you can do this

[Hidden]

Hey there,

I really hate hearing this about a "best friend". This isn't what a best friend does. First and foremost, your anxiety and depression issues are your business and not negotiable to use with other friends or strangers. I'm so sorry that she uses your business like this. This does sound like some sort of insecurity issue or "popularity" move on her part by exposing things that shouldn't be discussed unless you're okay with it. I would recommend maybe having a conversation with her. You don't find it funny, you don't see a reason this should come up, and it is your personal business you discussed with her in confidence as a really good friend. Explain how anxiety and depression aren't a joke to you and how distressing it is to be around someone who thinks what you're dealing with is subject to open game in gossip. I think lynnalice has it spot on. If this continues even with a talk, I would discontinue hanging out with her. Someone who is capable of being a good friend alone but a terrible one when around others is not a great friend. Maybe explaining this will help, maybe not. Regardless, I do hope you know having anxiety and depression and using medication as you need to does not make you weaker, less of a person, or anything worse. You're just as fantastic as anyone else. Hopefully she can see and understand how this makes you feel. Please take care and I hope this goes better than you expect...I'm really sorry someone is treating your issues as an open forum. Totally not cool.

[volleyballandtrack in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much, I finally feel like i have some where to talk😅

[Michdau1 in reply to volleyballandtrack]

You do my lovely XXX

[SuZQ154]

Glad you are here! Your heart to change your interactions with your "best friend" seems wise, and there has been many good suggestions for others about setting boundaries with her. You seem like you would like to learn how to remain confident with this friend. You might want to check out this book by the 17-year-old daughter of one of the dads from Duck Dynasty. She gives some really good suggestions on how to stay strong in your teens through faith. bit.ly/2XnGZOp Hope this helps and glad you are here!!