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Finally have a Mental Health Appointment

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I’ve been on a 57 week waiting list for an appointment at Community Mental Health. I got a call on Tuesday, offering me a cancellation appointment tomorrow (Friday) at 2:30pm. I’ve been on this list for about 4 months now and for some reason, I can’t face going tomorrow. I just have way too much to talk through and I don’t know where to start. Since I last saw a therapist (beginning of 2018), things have got way worse - my anxiety, my depression and problems with my family have also got worse. The last CPN I saw was so lovely and I really connected with her. But she has moved on to another job and this appointment is with someone knew. Someone who doesn’t know a thing about me. The thought of it is just overwhelming me to the point that I just don’t want to go 😞.

Does anyone have any suggestions how I should handle this appointment? I have so much baggage from my childhood which is relevant to why I feel so bad lately. The last year is enough to fill about three appointments! I’m so overwhelmed 😞

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hi just take your time start from the beginning up till now don't worry about it if you mix things up as long as they get an idea of what your going through you can build on it over time.its a gradual thing but important to get the most out of it to help you move on.im 6 weeks down the line now and even yesterday my therapist was only finding out about some of my issues.maybe you could write down in detail different events in your life from the start and work through them as time goes on.good luck.

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weegmack in reply to kenster1

Thank you ❤️. I have time to write things down tomorrow morning. That’s a good idea. Xx

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terriltwin2 in reply to weegmack

Writing is a great thing. Keeping a journal is a great healing resource. You can look back on the things you have wrote and see how far you have come.

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kenster1 in reply to weegmack

yeah no worries just put it down as topic 1 topic 2 don't even need to jot down big sentances just the main points.

You can do this!!! Sometimes so often we worry about expectations of things, and then when we get there, we actually are happy to be there. Take your time, Therapist, as you know are trained professionals. That is what they do. They are there for you and they know that you need to be helped and that you need to talk. Just relax and anticipate a good therapy session and it will happen. The most important part is just be yourself. It's okay to be yourself and to talk. All will turn out fine.

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weegmack in reply to terriltwin2

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

Hi Weegmack. Whatever u do don't miss your appointment. There's a good reason why u got in eatlier. Just show n all will just fall into place. The counselor will guide u threw.

I hope we are all fortunate to be able to look back and be proud and happy about something we did.

I have a lot I am proud of, and also a lot I wished I had done different.

Mayb I'm reading your response wrong. But I don't consider family a minor issue in my life. I consider it very major.

in reply to Dolphin14

In the end we die alone, and we must know how to do it, otherwise we lived for nothing, because our real life is not here. We spend here just few years, 80, 90 is very few years, our real home is not here, in this world.

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Dolphin14 in reply to

I've sat beside many dieing family members. I've sat with many patients dieing. So we don't all die alone.

I guess the rest is up for interpretation based on faith and spiritual beliefs.

I see you post in a lot of responses to postings.

It may have been good to post it as a single post and get feedback from more people on one thread. It would be interesting to see how people feel about your subject.

I don't like to interfere with someone else's post. So I will close by saying I respect your thoughts. But mine differ greatly. We must all find our own path.

Hope you have a good day

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Thank you and I wish you also a good day and just think to that: What you will do after dead?

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weegmack in reply to Dolphin14

I honestly found their response really scary

I’m maybe reading this wrong, but I don’t find your response helpful at all. Quite depressing. I have health anxiety and I’d rather not dwell on death and dying. 😕

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Dolphin14 in reply to weegmack

Agree

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Born and dead is our only major events in this life, why to not talk about them? All the others are minor events that come and pass.

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weegmack in reply to

I lost my dad to cancer two days before my wedding in 1997. I am well aware about death being part of life. I have never got over the shock of this event in my life and had no support to get through it. It is one of a number of things that I am going to my appointment to get help with.

I think you’ve made your point and I respectfully ask you to stop pressing me on this matter

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Dolphin14 in reply to weegmack

Weegmack

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have an appointment. Go and get the support you need.

Wishing you well

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weegmack in reply to

And I don’t consider kids being minor events. I have two wonderful daughters, who I absolutely live for. They are my life and my light.

in reply to weegmack

Indeed you have a shock and I'm sorry about that. Just try to imagine you after 20, 30 years. What you will think in that moment? About your present problem I'm sure that you will pass over it, probably with specialized help.

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Dolphin14 in reply to

You have upset the person who made this post. Please consider your blanket statement does not belong in a response to every one else's post.

It needs to be on its own for those that wish to respond.

The purpose of this persons post was support for their issues. Not to address yours.

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Sorry, my intention was and is to not upset anybody, I just want people to put a right questions related to their life on this earth. Why we are here? What is our purpose in life? Where you go after dead? I agree that many which are here have punctual problems and they want punctual solutions and I'm sure they will find a solution sooner or later. Time solve everything, except dead.

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weegmack in reply to

Please. Stop.

in reply to weegmack

Ok, I stop and let you heal yourself.

Seriously you should make this your own thread

You could be upsetting people

why have you prepared the same comment on at least 15 posts its upsetting to people.

in reply to kenster1

Sorry for that, but I consider this very important subject.

I will not respond to you, I said what I had to said, if you want to discuss more about dead, life, why are we here, where we go after dead go to chat. You said all this are nonsense, but you also will die. At that moment I'm curios if you will consider dead a nonsense.

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Dolphin14 in reply to

Stop, please there are people in this community that are so depressed they struggle with suicide. Please consider this.

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Yes, we continue on chat if you want

When i've had to face an anxiety-producing meeting, I find that writing down some facts or statements or questions help. Even more so when i've wanted to talk about a million different things. Is there any one problem want to tackle first? If not, maybe just writing what you want to talk about or accomplish can help. Take the paper with you. If it feels impossible to "get into" the appointment, hand the paper to the person you're meeting with. I hope this first appointment goes well for you. Let us know.

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