No support?

[_haiihoot]

So whenever I’m having anxiety or just trying to talk to my mom about anxiety she brushes it off. Like the other day I was telling her that I was freaking out and she said “you’re always freaking out” like I’m sorry my anxiety is bad. I hate talking to her so I tend to hold everything in and just freak out in my own head!

[Startagain191]

I have no support so I can relate to how you feel my partner does not believe that there is any such thing as depression or anxiety he says I make myself feel this way but when I used to have contact with my dad which was many years ago now he was a full licensed paramedic also a air paramedic he once said to me that the way I’m feeling is because I’ve been though hell and back and I was only a child then but he told me just remember that what you are feeling can not truly hurt you or harm you the anxiety attacks make your heat beat faster than usual so he said the worst that could happen is I would pass out but once my heart rate goes back down I will be completely fine he told me something that I still hold onto to this day he said for me to sing a song or read a book not out load but under my breath as singing or reading automatically slows your heart rate even though it’s hard for me to do at the time because of the overwhelming feelings I’m having I still sing under my breath and it does slow your heart rate make sure it’s a song that you remember that always seems to make you feel better or when you hear it playing it some how makes you feel some what Happy although I don’t have a song like that I sing a song that my mommar would always sing while she used to be baking cakes in the kitchen wow many years ago but that was when I felt safe and happy only with her around me hearing her voice echo in the kitchen that’s what I hold on to try something similar if you can I hope it can help you but you are not alone as my dad told me as a child the reason people like us feel this way is because we are survivor’s of to much pain and hurt in our life’s in some way or another

[Kkimm in reply to Startagain191]

That's a really good idea, thanks for sharing it

Kim

[Startagain191 in reply to Kkimm]

You are very welcome x

[hypercat54]

HI I have read your bio and I really think you would benefit from seeing your doctor and getting some help. If you had a counsellor too then you could talk to them about your anxiety.

I am sure your family love you but there isn't any point in keep telling them how you are feeling if they don't get it and it is making you feel worse. Do you have friends who are understanding?

You have us now anyway and we all get it. x

[deborah27]

Not everyone can meet our needs. Family so often are the least appropriate people because they are so emotionally caught up with us on so many levels. It may be that your choice of who you talk to about these issues needs to change. Try it, spend a little bit of time with your mum where you don't talk about anxiety etc... Then come onto the forum and talk to us. We are always here.

[SuZQ154]

You are confronting your anxiety and wanting to change! That's wonderful! I remember being your age and going through very similar feelings. Sometimes, we need guidelines to help us change our circumstances and our reactions to them. This little book might help! bit.ly/2Xo3CBF It's short and gives a plan on how to overcome anxiety. Hope this helps. There is HOPE!!

[_haiihoot in reply to SuZQ154]

I’m definitely gonna check it out! Thanks