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New to this.

I’m really suffering from overthinking the worse case situation. I’m not sleeping I’ve lost nearly 2 stone in weight in jus few months cuz I’m barely eating with worry because a family member poorly in hospital.. I feel I’m just overthinking the worst case everyday and even tho ther quite poorly all observation checks gud and nothing bad been said only plans for Theropy . I need to cope better I know . Just struggling x

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pink83737

sorry you’re going through such a tough time right now, also welcome aboard! we are so happy to have you :) have you tried doing meditation they have some apps for it and you can do some research on it for the benefits it has on anxiety, best of luck x

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Spaz119

I find myself saying this a lot but, I’m like this too. The last time my father was in the hospital it nearly killed me. I’m an only child so it’s all on me.

I could not stop going through every “what if” scenario

24/7. I couldn’t eat and dropped 20 pounds in 3 weeks.

People kept telling me I didn’t know what was going to happen so relax. Relax? They’re crazy! 🤪

See if this is familiar: every time I let my guard down about ANYTHING, something really bad happens and knocks Me on my ass. I mean every single time. If I over worry and things work out, fine. I feel somehow prepared and on alert and massively relieved when it’s okay.

So how can you stop worrying? How do you cope? Don’t ask me, lol, all I know is the only reason I get better, is the situation gets better.

Then, you would think coping will make you stronger the next time. In my case, It didn’t.😞

I feel your pain and no matter what anybody said to me they were just words. How the hell can they help me? (As I am here ...using words!)

That my new friend, is why we are all here. It’s great if you have a friend you can talk to...but I’ve broken all mine 😆 so here I am. So please continue to come on here for support.

One thing I do agree with people I’ve talked to is it’s about control. When there is literally nothing you can do , you feel lost, hopeless, and terrified.

Xanax helped me. At night I would be so glad to sleep and get away from it all. Sweet peace 🙂

I don’t know if you’re religious, but praying constantly (when it was possible) helped. And getting through one day, then the next, etc. Just keep going and do your best. Try to take joy whenever you can. Even a shower or nap can make you feel better for a bit.

I hope things work out. I hope you have support there.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Keep us posted.

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Smileinthedowntime in reply to Spaz119

U r exactly me an my situation is exactly the same . Today I’ve took a day off An got myself an my head under control and my dad although poorly is ok so I’m gunna try gud sleep tonight An I’ve eaten cuz today is ok . Jus hav take day by day but anxiety an panick is the worse feeling it’s like I hav a lump on my chest constantly which I feel sick and my heart aches . Wen the situation is gud I’m gud but wen it’s not I’m a mess An I know it’s mental health . The mind is a terrible thing st times how it controls us . Thankyou so much for ur reply xx

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Spaz119 in reply to Smileinthedowntime

Most welcome. Glad to know I’m not alone

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Smileinthedowntime in reply to Spaz119

I lost my dad on sat.. my overthinking and gut feeling was right I’m broken but holding up in sumway I’ve been grieving for a while b4 expecting an waitin 😔 I’m relieved his suffering is over an he’s free from pain as that wasn’t my dad An he wudnt want to carry on like that but the thought of never seeing him again is killing me. Xx

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Spaz119 in reply to Smileinthedowntime

I’m so sorry about your dad. It’s terrible to watch someone suffering. I don’t know if you believe in an afterlife but I’m hoping there is one. I’m hoping this isn’t it. So maybe you will see him again. Let’s hope.

Take care of yourself. Try to find some peace.

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kenster1

hi I lost over 4 stone struggled with anxiety for years as well.comfort eating is our best friend in these times but its important to think of ourselves as you will run yourself down.hope your family member picks up real soon.take care.

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Smileinthedowntime in reply to kenster1

Thankyou x

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kenster1 in reply to Smileinthedowntime

no worries I know what its like so glad to help in any way.

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