Why Am I Not The Extroverted person I thought I was?

Lately, I just get so mad that all my past friendship have mostly faded due to moving or just lacking things in common. I just feel annoyed that im just some guy whos lookijg for friends, and it makes me feel more pathetic seeing as I turn 20 tommorow etc i just thought this would be done, the anxiety I just want to get rid of it, pills, therapy never worked. I want to get out and explore who I am, but the paranoia of thinking negative situations will happen prevents me. I'm trying to look into support groups, or different groups in general.

[JLoInCali12]

Please don’t be so hard on yourself - anxiety is a medical condition that has to be treated like any other medical condition. It’s not your fault & you didn’t ask for it. You’re dealing with a medical confirmation a very young age, which is a responsibility that most people your age don’t have to deal with.

Please be king to yourself. 😊 And Happy Birthday! 🎂🎈⭐️🎁😀

[Cara78]

Hi, my name is Cara, im 20 years older than you and have a son your age. You have the world at your feet. I think many guys feel the same as you, remember its an illusion that everyone has it made, if i can offer any words its to care less what people think, be kind unless someone is being a dickhead, keep yourself right by being true to yourself by doing things you love, eatwell, exercise, stay away from pills and own it. Its normal to feel uncomfortable when trying out new things, it's normal to feel uncomfortable lol, each day if you set yourself small goals you will shape yourself into a fine young man. My son is off social media, its false. Think good, be good, take healthy risks, have fun and enjoy yourself, its none of your buisness what others think of you and its your job to love yourself. You will go far. Wish i had someone tell me at your age. Its not luck, its how we think. If you think big youll be big at whatever you focus on, negative thoughts are normal, over ride them with a positive. Every single person on this planet is equal, no better, no worse. Choose your company wisley. Best of wishes!

[hypercat54]

Hi what sort of negative situations will happen? Have a think through them and work out a plan for dealing with it if they do occur. Then you will feel more in control and be able to move forward. Have confidence that you can cope no matter what life throws at you so just play things by ear and take the chance. x

[Kkimm]

Hi

I really feel for you, life is tough and you are at an age when it can be particularly tough. Others of your age will be having just the same feelings you are.

Support groups could be a real help to you so I think you have come up with a good plan there. Also there will always be people on this website who will understand and answer you when feeling lonely, anxious or down.

If things get worse, talk to your doctor about what help you may need.

Therapy can be very useful, particularly CBT because it can help you stop worrying and think in more positive ways so this may be your first option. Learning relaxation techniques and mindfulness can also help alot. Antidepressants are only needed if you are severely anxious so you feel frightened and ill constantly or have depression which goes on for weeks and nothing makes you feel better. So medication of the right sort can be helpful, but only if really needed as it can make you feel alot worse before you feel better and can take months to help you feel well again.

There will be lots of other young people who would like to make new friends and all sorts of ways of meeting, social clubs, clubs based on hobbies or interests, online forums, dating websites etc so very good luck.

I am sure you will find friendship and feel better soon if you are proactive and get out there and try to feel as positive about yourself as you should do. You are so right to say you want to get out there and explore who you are.

Have a good Birthday!

Kim

[Agora1]

Jperez, Happy Birthday my friend! You just having turned 20 is not a pathetic position to

be in because you moved and haven't found friends with the same common interests.

It will happen. Unfortunately, anxiety doesn't have an age limit and then magically

disappears. It's a work in progress in discovering who you are and what you are capable

in being. The pills, the therapy are only band aids in getting you through tough times.

The answer comes from working on your self esteem, believing in yourself and ridding

yourself of negative thoughts. It will come to pass one day soon.

Today is about celebrating your special day knowing that in just one year from today,

at 21 you can be that extroverted person once again. Time is on your side. We are

here to support you J. xx

[EmbraceMyweirdness]

Happy early birthday