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Here is how I feel all the time. Here is me!

One of my major triggers is people talking about me or making fun of me, or the perception of such. I don’t like general statements, posts, or letters. Being in the office for work is awful for me. My co-workers only know me at work. They really don’t know anything about me nor do I know much about them. Sarcasm is awful. I never understand the true intent.

“Are they talking about me? Are they making fun of me? What did I do? Did I offend somebody? I didn’t mean to. I want friends. I’m crazy and overbearing. I can be better. I should be better. It’s my fault. I’m sorry. I’m all alone. I don’t have anyone to talk to. I don’t have any friends. I can do better. Nobody would know if I were gone. Maybe I should end it all. No, I can’t do that. I won’t do that to my children. Oh, the pain is so bad. I want the pain to go away. I must live with this terrible fate. Is there another way? I shouldn’t think like that. Why don’t I have any friends? I probably offended somebody. I can do better. I’m such an idiot.”

My closest loved ones know if you have something to say to me, just say it. Don’t hold back because as long as the end result is clear with understood expectations, I can recover much faster. I am starting to know some friends on here. I’m sorry if I’m not there for you as much as you would like. I try to be but I have to monitor my own triggers, which means I need to isolate myself. If I’m not posting or responding, I’m likely having a difficult time. I do check for messages regularly. If you ever want to talk, send me a private message. I love for people to reach out and I love to talk privately.

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This sounds really difficult I'm sorry :(

Would it help if you tried to talk to your coworkers a bit more? I think if you get to know them that might ease your worry. Otherwise don't sweat it. You can't control what other people are doing, so try not to worry about them. Just do your best at your job. Next time take a deep breath, you are doing fine!

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I have a hard time trusting people. I don't want to get to close to people at work. I think its best to leave work at work.

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I think Eowyn7 is right. You don't have to get close to your coworkers, but if you could at least speak with them a little, you'd feel a lot better. Try not to overthink all of this. All you can control is your own behavior. If you are courteous and polite to them, the ones worth knowing should respond.

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I'm friendly at work. I wear a mask and nobody knows how I feel. I fear that if I bring up the subject ill sound crazy creepy or mental.

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It’s nice to get to know you better, Aaronm. Hope you will be having a beautiful day my friend! You deserve it. I hear you, I know life gets difficult it really does but let’s both try to face the sun and be in the light.

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Thank you starrlight. I appreciate you. Your always very kind to me.

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Well you deserve kindness awesome you!

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I used Rational Emotive Therapy as a way to correct my negative (irrational) self talk. It is a theory created by Dr. Ellis, that may be a great help to you. It works best as a group process, but the concept can really help an individual. Do a search and check it out, if you have a chance. It changed my life.

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Ill search for it now. Thank you!

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Sometimes just getting a hug helps more than words..!? Sending a hug ur way

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Thank you monkey smiles. That's very true. Your also always very kind to me. I appreciate you!

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I feel your suffering and can identify with it. I think Greg has it right, you have some very negative scripts going on in your head. Self talk, telling you bad things about yourself.

Rational emotive therapy or Neurolinguistics or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy would help. It is a problem and it's better to do something about it.

It's also possible that there may be some underlying condition you have. Possibilities include Social Anxiety, Aspergers, or Adult Attention Deficit. I suggest you Google these to see if any of their features match your experience.

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I've researched those. If aspergers were an actual diagnosis I would definitely have it. Its no longer in the DSM. ADD is possible.

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You are asking many questions of yourself, this is exhausting you. Your past does not define you nor does it need to hold you back from all you are meant to be. When I begin to fall toward that slippery slop I hold on to my faith rope and hold on tight!

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Thank you!

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