Break-up depression: how do I get over it?

[Jack_Ryan]

My girlfriend and I just broke up, and it's given me three weeks of ups-and-downs. I have bigger issues than this, but how do I get her outta my system? She's a looker, but she's got baggage of her own. I looked up and I fit the profile of someone in limerence or the love we had was limerant love. I wanna let go, but we're in the same neighborhood. Should I move or move on with somebody else?

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It will be best to move on to someone else. Unless you feel it is really necessary for you to move.

When you meet a new person you may still be a bit focused on the past but it will fade as you get to know them more. At times though there may be reminders about the past relationship, but don’t let them get in the way. Proceed forward.

Which ever way life turns us, or decisions we make we have to make the most of it. The past will be remembered, but do your best to remember the days of laughter as to great times. Such will bring your spirit up a bit. As to even tears. Tears of joy from the happy moments as to the many more which have to come your way with who may be the next special one for you. 😊

[Sunnidayz1]

These things take time. Dont beat yourself up over it. Stay busy.

[kevinloveslen]

Hello “Jack Ryan”,

I am sorry that you are going through this situation right now. Though I do think you need to stay away from her, I do not think you need to move or get involved with another girl right now because it seems to me that you may have a need that you are seeking to fill that, though exciting, a woman will not be able to fill that hole. If I am wrong, please ignore me. If I am right, please let me tell you my story as I was in the same boat.

I grew up a Christian in Colorado attending a Southern Baptist Church. When I was eight years old, I accepted Christ. When I was 15, I decided to live my own life. For fourteen years, even though I had a girlfriend, did well in college, and went on to be a success in my career. Unfortunately, something was missing. When I was 28 years old, God called me back and I have never felt more complete than I have ever felt. For four years I built my relationship with God while getting my life straight. Four years later, I was married to the most amazing woman. That was over twelve years ago. I wish you the best. If you have any questions, please let me know.

Blessings,

Kevin