How do I get over past trauma

How do I get over trauma from my past that still effects me today? My first chance of dating a guy destroyed who I was. I was taken advantage of and was persuaded into haveing sex with him. I didn't want to. And within minutes it was over and I was in physical pain. But who could I tell. I feel worthless and ashamed. It continued for 2 years until I finally told him I never wanted to see him again. It's been 9 years since then and I still have the fear of being forced to do something and despite what I say; my voice isn't heard...that my voice doesn't even matter😢

[Daesin]

Speak with your therapist about EMDR. See if you are a good candidate for this therapy.

Trauma doesn’t go away on its own. It can go quiet as it settles into your body into your brain and in your heart. Then it comes back viciously in ways that you can’t even imagine. In ways that you don’t want.

Best of luck.

[Hidden in reply to Daesin]

What is EMDR?

[Daesin in reply to Hidden]

EMDR is used for rewiring the brain. It helps to reassociate memories with different emotions. I’m not really describing it very well. I was not trained in it but I saw it used many time and successfully every time.

The practitioner uses a light bar or a tapping to direct eye movement. Then the therapist will work you as you go back through the memory of the trauma. It is amazing how effective it is and how goofy it sounds.

Check it out online. They will do better at explaining the process.

[kenster1]

hi sorry that you went through that ordeal hopefully as Daesin said therapy really will help.one thing though not every guy is the same as your ex don`t let it hinder your future relationships.

[Hidden]

easy for me to say x ten trillion-his loss....hes the moron....lived it seen it countless times

so a tree is run over or mauled by a bulldozer

how is that the gentle kind bful trees fault- and her fault because she didnt stop the bulldoze like punishing the victim again....

his pathology......not the gentle kind bf natural tree.....

move away from the bulldozer

let the light and the other trees welcome u back for trhe tree soul the gentel grace u ar

not the trees fault.....just find tree lovers who honor and value kind souls

aggressors never do...his problem not urs