Feeling blue

[childofomelas]

breakups are hard and i feel miserable, i know it was both our faults but i still feel sad and i can’t bring myself to talk to them or work it out. it’s not a good feeling

[alohamora13]

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Relationships are hard. Mine is failing and I don’t know how to fix it. You aren’t alone and I’m sure we can both get through this, it will just take more time than we would like. Hope you find some peace.

[childofomelas in reply to alohamora13]

thank you, i hope things work out for you two. mine is failing because i can’t communicate my feelings well, it’s always my issue

[alohamora13 in reply to childofomelas]

Sounds familiar! My husband and I both have this problem. And he’s gotten so sensitive over the years that I couldn’t communicate anything remotely negative, even if that isn’t how I meant it. I guess it came across that way. That turned into me being overly sensitive, too. Recipe for disaster I guess.

[Loki1018]

You need to give yourself some time and so does your partner right now everything is so fresh the hurt, the feelings being processed, etc.

I know because I just recently left a 6 year relationship this January and we didn’t have any contact for the first week or more. Finally when we were able to speak it was more crying in both ends then anything every time it felt as though a scab was torn off before it was even remotely healed.

I moved back in with my mom and brother and after about almost a month we were able to speak with some tears here and there but actually get words out.

We are now trying to reconcile, I have never tried to do this in any of my relationships in the past. This is a first for me, it’s is not easy. I will say though this time around it’s my head over my heart.

There was a lot I put up with and never were there and boundaries set. Came to a point where there was no respect between us, communication didn’t even exist, and on his end a lot of belittling and deeming and hurtful words were said.

I’m still at my mother’s but here and there I do go my apartment and stay a few nights because in order to reconcile you do need to have some time spent with each other.

But I won’t tolerate a thing, if things start to get out of hand first I bring it to his attention and if I have to bring it to his attention a second time I won’t I just tell him I need to leave. I will not put my mental health on the line anymore.

This relationship has definitely impacted my mental health has triggered a lot of anxiety and depression but I’m also diagnosed bipolar. But I no longer will let it or tolerate it jeopardizing my mental health. I must take care of myself before anyone else.

Best of wishes to you all.