Bad feeling

[Mamatired]

I always feel like something bad is going to happen. I can’t explain it and nothing bad ever happens. It’s so frustrating. My mind automatically jumps to the worst situation or will think something bad will happen so if it does, I can feel like I was prepared.

[Agora1]

Hi Mamatired, the problem in being prepared if something does happen (and the important word here is IF) robs you of living each day. Living in a state of "what ifs" was the way I thought for a long time as well. I eventually got bored of the same thought each day. It was then I switched my thoughts to a more positive approach. Leaving me strong mentally and physically. Feeling more in control feels so much better xx

[EndUser13]

I can relate... though I think my feelings can mostly be attributed to PTSD and life experiences. I try to focus on the silver linings in life, it's far more worthwhile to try to be positive than to worry about what may go wrong. I've caused myself far too many panic attacks catastrophizing about what-ifs.

[Churchchoir]

Hi Mamatired. I have the same problem. I think my tendency to worry is due to past life experiences. I had some success with just trying to stay in the present moment, but then the pandemic started. Now I worry all the time about my family getting sick. Before the vaccines were available, I was terrified that my daughter who only has one lung was going to get sick. I felt better after my daughter was vaccinated but am now back to worrying that she is going to get a breakthrough infection. I’m also extremely worried that my 7 year old granddaughter is going to get sick because there is no vaccine for children her age. Being worried all the time is a terrible way to live.

[DodgeDhanda]

Hi Mama, those thoughts & feelings are a massive bout of anxiety & it's very damaging to our own minds & how we react to those situations . Best way forward is to teach urself to do a couple of things . 1) split things into 2 categories those out of ur control & those in ur control & 2nd is leave the uncontrollable stuff alone & deal with the things u can control & take care of them & remember to praise urself for facing things even though they scare you . Always keep faith in urself & the fact that you can & will change things to become better.

[fauxartist in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Brilliant as always Dodge...great advice.

[fauxartist]

I was conditioned from birth by my mother to think to always look for the other shoe to drop, and it took years of therapy to start looking at 'the glass half full' instead of ‘half empty’. Sometimes when my depression really kicks in, it's tough to be possitive about anything, and also with the mental injury from my childhood it can hold me down in a dark place for a while. But you can learn to start taking a breath and know that,...no... we don't have to look for the other shoe to drop, and if it does...so be it, we just pick it up. It's not always easy, and it is a new learning process, but it will help.

[DodgeDhanda in reply to fauxartist]

Faux , I'm so sorry that ur momma thought she was educating you when in fact she was putting damaging thoughts in ur head & thats not right or fair. As parents we should be nurturing our kids & protecting them until they're ready & I mean when the kids are ready as the age will be different for each child. Once our kids have learned what we want them to know from us we then just guide them & not rule their lives just a bit of guidance, it's how I raised my girls & now both I would turn to for advice myself as I trust they will have thought things through .

It takes at least 15 to 20 times longer to overcome any wrong done upon us by our parents as its taught everywhere that u trust ur parents even in church. Alas not always the case & going forward I hope people don't put negative vibes on their own kin. Faux as always I'm here if u need & thank you for ur praise 😊

[fauxartist in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Thank you Dodge...your one of the good ones here and always kind. I appreciate it.

[DodgeDhanda in reply to fauxartist]

Honestly Faux , it's not about me being a good one but it's a case of I'm honest about everything & as you know I choose my words so I can show the person I do empathise with them & I have faith in the person too as we feel alone at times but with me ur never alone & if I can help a person even only 1% first time I talk to them then its 1% less for them to suffer.

It's about me backing you & u backing me & I know we do back each other. Now is that being one of the good ones or a dependable person. I think the latter as its what we all hopefully do for each other is to be supportive 😊

[fauxartist in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Take the credit pal....I know your a good dad to your girls, I know by the way you share and care....that's rare these days...

[DodgeDhanda in reply to fauxartist]

I do like being old school where manners cost nothing & got u far. As for credit helping other on their journey is enough for me honestly.