False hope

[Darknlovely504]

I don't like being told things will get better when they know it will not. Be realistic people respect that more than a lie. Or just don't say anything just listen. It upsets me when ppl do that to me. Because I'm not stupid I know better.

[hypercat54]

Hi oh dear you are down in the dumps aren't you! Things usually do improve if you make some changes but maybe not if you don't? None of us can know things won't get any better unless we can see into the future so it's worth sticking around to see what's to come. It might pleasantly surprise you. x

[Fearofit]

I hope it gets better for everyone.

[Kat63]

Sometimes I feel like you do - “Don’t make me any false promises.” Other times, I want to be reassured that the current bad phase will not last forever.

[leanneski]

‘Hope for the best, prepare for the worst’ usually stands me in good stead. You need to acknowledge and accept the positive and the negative in life. 💜 xx

[Hidden in reply to leanneski]

I flipped that around and find it works better for me. Expect the worst and be pleasantly surprised if something good happens. That way you won't be let down.

[JAYnLA]

If you can't hear optimism right now perhaps you can agree that everything changes. Everything. Nothing stays the same, not even the mountains.

[JLoInCali12 in reply to JAYnLA]

Thanks for the reminder!

[Sunnidayz1]

Things only get better if you do the work. And God only helps those who help themselves.

Anything in this world that is worth having takes work.

[mvillarreal in reply to Sunnidayz1]

Please don't take this the wrong way, but that almost sounds like victim-blaming. If things haven't got better, it's because they haven't worked hard enough? I think we need to be careful with sentiments like these on a platform like this. That may not be what you intended, but I could see how this could be read that way.

[Sunnidayz1 in reply to mvillarreal]

Do not put words into my mouth. You came up with your own conclusion when u said u havent gotten better bc u havent worked hard enough. I never said that. And I think you are reaching when you say victim blaming. Nothing in my comment speaks to victim blaming.

[mvillarreal in reply to Sunnidayz1]

Like I said, I don't think that was the intention. I'm just saying to be careful, as it could be interpreted that way. Love to you on your journey.

[Sunnidayz1 in reply to mvillarreal]

I dont need to be careful. You need to be careful how you interpret things. It's called projecting. Look it up. That's what you're doing.

[mvillarreal]

I am curious though: have you ever wondered if maybe it could get better? Maybe it won't, but do you think it could be possible?

[Darknlovely504 in reply to mvillarreal]

No

[mvillarreal in reply to Darknlovely504]

I hope I'm not prying too much, but would you be comfortable sharing why you think it's impossible?

[Hidden]

its up to you to make it better...if you personally ask me, i honestly confirm it does get better ...

[hypercat54]

I only started recovering after I learned to 'own' my depression. When I realised I wasn't getting any help or the help I needed I knew I had to deal with it myself or end it. I chose the former and sought out counselling and meds. I became more self aware and am still on a learning curve. Things have improved out of all proportion than when I was young, so I can say from my experience that things can get better. x

[Hidden]

I know what you’re saying. I would rather for people to listen and say something like ‘I’m sorry you’re hurting so much ...’ than ‘Things will get better.’

I have been told that for the past almost 4 years.