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[MaskOfTranquility]

Hello. One of hardest part in dealing with this is the idea that no one cares. Everyone has there own problems. Some people have real actual problems, and here I am complaining about feeling bad. When i examine my life, it’s actually pretty good. Sure, there are challenges, but those challenges pale in comparison to people with real life problems. So I’m left in silence, feeling no real right to complain.

When my marriage fell apart, people with debilitating health issues were consoling me on my broken heart which made me feel worse. Why am I complaining to this friend about my hurt feelings when she just got out of the hospital? She must think I’m a whiney baby.

[Kevin160]

Hey, emotional issues are just as important, for me i know alot on how terrible they can be , dont underestimate ur feeling or make them small or unvalid ...we are all here for u ..this place will help alot trust me ...u will get alot of support and helpful tips to manage your problems ..sorry to heart about ur marriage , u can tell us all about ur problems and let it all out there, no judgement we will listen and help , dont worry about worrying people or upsetting us or being a " whiner"

chats are always available for me

[-Sasha-]

You can't compare situations, that's a losing battle. It doesn't matter how big or small the problem is, you are entitled to feel how you feel. We are human... You can't just turn off your feelings because a loved one is going through a rougher time. If you don't take care of you then who else is going to? If a friend is what you need, someone to talk to, or just someone to listen, I'm here... And I'm sure others here have more to offer as well. Hang in there.

~S~

[porcupyne]

No that’s why we have sites like these

1 out of 3 people in this country have

Mental illness and it’s highes in young

People. Keep sharing and the fog will lift

Text me anytime I need support too

[MaskOfTranquility]

Thank you all. It’s tough because part of my own mind constantly chastises me for being weak. “Just toughen up you panzie. Everyone has problems. You think your problems are unique or special?”

I don’t know how to allow myself the freedom or the right to face how I feel. I want to because I know it’s best, but I’m locked in this cycle of Inflated self-criticism to the point where I often just say to myself, “screw it. It is what it is”

[rtscd8]

Everyone has their own cross to bear. Believe me, I've felt exactly how you do. Exactly. A dear friend of mine has been in a wheelchair since birth and when my marriage fell apart, I felt silly turning to her. And I remember saying the same to her but she was there for me regardless. So you absolutely need to take care of yourself and look for the help you need. I know there are people who care about you...there are people here on this site who are here for you for exactly that reason. Have you considered talking to someone, like a counselor, about this?

[MaskOfTranquility in reply to rtscd8]

I don’t trust counselors. They tell you just enough of what you want to hear to keep you coming back. Their goal isn’t recovery. It’s getting you back for another paid session.

[rtscd8 in reply to MaskOfTranquility]

I'm guessing you've tried it in the past. I'm sorry if that was your experience. What about a church home? When I've felt my worst, or was closing in on making a bad decision because of what my life was turning into, I knew my family there really had my back.