Never find love

[Lindsey14]

I just broke up with the person i was dating....this is the third time we called it off. They say its not my fault, but i always feel that it is. Sometimes during the relationship, each time I'd be a little distant, anxiety? Idk. I would get those moments when i didn't feel like myself and that would make me distant. I guess it makes me thibk I'm not cabable of finding true love....like I'm hopeless. I worry ill never find the spark with someone...

[Hidden]

Maybe the person you just split up with isn't the right person for you. You might meet someone someday who has that spark and they will be the one for you.

[Lindsey14 in reply to Hidden]

Maybe <3

[anxiousgirl7]

Don’t worry hun. You will find someone. I’m the same way with my relationship

[Lindsey14 in reply to anxiousgirl7]

Thank ya <3

[thedoulamom]

Hey Lindsey,

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Just from what you've said I'd personally try to look at the entirety of the relationship and see if what you are feeling is the truth of the situation. After breaking up for the 3rd time, maybe it's not you or them, it's just that you two aren't good for each other. Also, that feeling of "not quite yourself" and then pulling away, I do too. It's called a depressive episode. I went to therapy to help me with it last year when it got worse when my husband was deployed. Have you looked into maybe seeing a counselor to address it? If you need help finding someone in your area, you can call 855-382-5433 and get a free consultation and referral from a LPC.

I won't tell you there's nothing wrong with you, because we are all flawed people. But, I will tell you that sometimes our perceptions of ourselves get skewed in not good relationships. Sometimes it takes help to see ourselves for who we truly are again.

[Lindsey14 in reply to thedoulamom]

Thank you!

[Epsom1 in reply to thedoulamom]

There's so many factors, it would be nice to be with someone who will be there no matter what our mood is like, someone who accepts all our flaws the way we accept there's, I have hope that it is possible. I'm dating, it stops me from feeling as lonely temporarily, but I want to be in a long-term relationship. So far the person I've dated has still been there despite my depressive episodes, although I tend to isolate and hibernate then so they don't get the full brunt of it.

[Hidden]

I know that feeling all too well. Following what everyone else said, you'll know when you meet the right person. If things don't feel right or you don't feel happy, then it's not worth it. The worst thing people do in relationships is clinging to someone in the hopes they will change. Nothing is more miserable than being with someone who can't bring you joy. I hope all is well with you. Hang in there.