Day ruined

[Yumaris]

I knew my day couldn’t go good all day. My anxiety peaked up again and the tears started again. I don’t feel the love or compassion from my spouse. I knew he was going to throw the car accidents from a couple years ago again. I knew he was going to blame me for us not going anywhere even though he sd he doesn’t want to do anything w me or my son. Why can’t i say f u leave me alone. Stop bringing the past. I have enough i have to deal with. Another horrible weekend. So unhappy with everything! Angry at myself for feeling this way!

[Agora1]

Yumaris, tune your husband out. Don't let him break you. Go into another room

and cry if you must but don't allow him to see or hear you. Start your deep breathing.

Take some "me time" for 5-10 minutes. You might not be able to control what he says

to you but you have the power in controlling how you react to his emotional abuse.

Start practicing relaxation/deepbreathing every day so that when this happens, you

will be prepared to get through the hurt and emotional upheaval w/o going into anxiety. xx

[Yumaris in reply to Agora1]

Yes I went to the basement . I refuse to let him see me upset. I try not to let it get to me but it’s tough. I wouldn’t do that to him. Never good enough for him. So tired and frustrated!!!!!!!!! I do the breathing but sometimes it’s harder than other days... i have a real bad headache now

[Agora1 in reply to Yumaris]

I'm sorry Yumaris I just got back on now. I'm sure you have

gotten a tension headache from the upset. Hope by now it

has gotten better. Take care of yourself. You are important xx

[Yumaris in reply to Agora1]

No just got ignored. Its been like this all week.

[Agora1 in reply to Yumaris]

Yumaris, I'm so sorry. But know that you are never ignored here.

I care and respect you. Use the forum as much as you need to feel

the love and support from those of us who know what it's like to hurt

and not feel validated. Sending you gentle hugs. xx

[Yumaris in reply to Agora1]

Thank you Agora1