Heavy Work Distress

[jwhitleyjr]

Hello. I was wondering if someone could help because I am feeling intense fear and high anxiety and it's work related.I feel one of my co workers is trying to sabotage me.

Recently I received anual work evaluation.

My co worker said some things about me that are far fetch and untrue.

Now my main supervisor wants me to give this gentleman a list of my daily work accomplishments.

All I can say is I truly do not trust this co worker and I feel he has made my job worst.

Right now I have major fear and anxiety where I feel fatality.

[Godbea]

Reach light Amen

[cashew78]

If you're supervisor is being easily swayed by another's employee's problem with you, and that employee never tried to discuss their concerns with you directly, there may be something wrong with, a) the workplace, and/or, b) the management (ie- your supervisor). Are there union reps or other special/senior staff you can speak to for guidance?

[jwhitleyjr in reply to cashew78]

Yes I have a union rep. I can speak with.

[jwhitleyjr in reply to cashew78]

Right now I feel alone and lost.

[cashew78 in reply to jwhitleyjr]

This is stressful, obviously. Wishing you luck, but also do you have a workplace buddy who you can confide in? This community is here, yes; but we're no substitute for a friend who's right there with you in real time. Take it easy.

[jwhitleyjr in reply to cashew78]

I think I do. I feel now I can't trust nobody.

[jwhitleyjr in reply to cashew78]

Yes I have a union rep. I can speak to them.

[Turnipgirl in reply to cashew78]

At the care home I walked out of recently I had complained about the attitude of colleagues towards me and had been fobbed off with excuses and that it was happening all because it was Monday which was ridiculous!

I was right to have walked out that Friday night!

[Agora1]

Dear jwhitleyjr, it certainly seems as if you are between a rock and a hard place.

Time to rethink where you are going in life and when. xx

[jwhitleyjr in reply to Agora1]

All I can say this is the first time I came to work crying. Plus I made a mistake with three files last so that makes me even look more bad.

[Agora1 in reply to jwhitleyjr]

When going to work results in crying, it's time to move on my friend.

Your physical and mental health is all important. The paycheck is important

as well however, you can't put a price on your health. Just saying my friend xx

[jwhitleyjr in reply to Agora1]

Aggie I came into work crying today and this not me. I guess I need to stop being lazy and find another job.

[Agora1 in reply to jwhitleyjr]

I don't believe that laziness is a factor here. People do make mistakes.

It sounds more like this co worker has it in for you. A hard one to fight.

Keep your options open but start looking. I'm sorry

[Turnipgirl in reply to Agora1]

That happened to me as well at that care home when those colleagues that bullied me had it out for me out of jealousy and I stood up to them and walked out and kicked the back gate in bad temper!

The lesson of the care home is that next time I get offered a job and they threaten to take it away if I don't say yes right away I will tell them no thank you and let it go!

[Agora1 in reply to Turnipgirl]

Thank you Turnipgirl, for sharing that knowledge since we learn from other's

experiences in life. Jealousy can and is usually behind many disgruntled co-

workers, which play havoc to our own lives. You learned from that hard knock

in life. May it help jwhitleyjr with his decisions as to where he goes next. xx

[Turnipgirl in reply to Agora1]

Yes should that come again when they threaten to take offers away just because I ask for time to think it over then I will say thanks for the offer but no thanks and let the offer go!

It was upsetting though one minute having a job and the next I hadn't and another good thing is I don't have to do those ridiculous 12 hour shifts or get manipulated to go into work on a day off or to change my social life to fit someone else in!

The care home wasn't a waste as I learned my lesson from it not to accept jobs in desperation!

[jwhitleyjr]

You know this is the first time I came to work crying. I used to love coming here. Now I do not know. But last night a made a mistake with three documents so I am looking more bad. My luck.

[jwhitleyjr]

Today was the first time ever I came to work crying. I am not sure if I will physically make it.

[Turnipgirl]

Back in April I started work at a care home and got bullied by colleagues there and one Friday I was working 8/8 and a woman who works nights had started work at 6.30pm not getting paid until 8pm just to throw her weight around and a buzzer had gone off and she had shouted at me for not having answered quickly enough and I attended to the resident but I was really cross!

Then I went back downstairs and in the kitchen she tried to put me down and I cut her off and told her I wasn't putting up with her crud, got my things and went home early and left them to it and on my way out I kicked their back gate in temper!

There had been other incidents before that one like getting told off for not having labelled a pasta salad I made for myself that I had put in their fridge, told off over the breakfast trays which was ridiculous and that Friday it had all come to a head when that happened!

Thankfully because I had only been there a couple of weeks I could leave immediately and there wasn't a thing they could do about it as after a month at a place you have to give a weeks notice if you want to finish!

I am feeling better about things now but at the time I was extremely disappointed as one minute I had a job and the next I didn't!

[Turnipgirl]

I'm back on the horse looking for other jobs and it can get depressing and stressful but good news as I have some interviews coming up one for next Wednesday at 10.30am and one a week next Tuesday which will be an all dayer.

[jwhitleyjr in reply to Turnipgirl]

Great good luck to you

[jwhitleyjr]

I just don't know if I am going to make it. I am feeling high anxiety right now.

[jwhitleyjr]

I don't think I responded to this. But thank you so much for these words.