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Its not you, its them.

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Yes , so true.

A lot of the time those we are angry with have no idea.

So it’s just us suffering

Thanks for sharing this 🌺🌺

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your welcome, Darling.

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IChoose

Hmm ... In psychotherapy I had to get my repressed anger out ( wow ... Was I angry! ) I think it's ok to be angry. Anger can motivate us to take positive action to resolve a very real problem - something I also learned in therapy.

Just encouraging folks not to live in denial about their anger, and not to stigmatize anger as something that less spiritual people do, all stuff I had to learn in therapy.

I hope I didn't misunderstood the post ... It has truth in I.

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gerrerd in reply toIChoose

If there is anger in you, and it came out. there is also love and peace in there thats what you need to find now.

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IChoose in reply togerrerd

YES!

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NCAQuilter in reply toIChoose

I think, that if we are angry, we can choose how we work it out. Lashing out seldom gets any result but more anger. If, instead, a reply is calm, to the point, it can be accepted. If not, one can walk away, knowing they have tried their best and taken the high road.

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NCAQuilter

You post such thought provoking truisms. This is a great one!

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gerrerd in reply toNCAQuilter

I try to post things that are true for me, and have overcome, Still learning, but it,s getting better every day.

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NCAQuilter in reply togerrerd

If we're learning, we're living

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gerrerd in reply toNCAQuilter

Keep making mistakes, you learn quicker !

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Marimac in reply togerrerd

I may need to borrow this one!😁

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gerrerd in reply toMarimac

Life,s a school house, the bigger the mistake the more we learn. The trick is dont keep repeating them !!!

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NCAQuilter

AMEN!!!

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gerrerd in reply toNCAQuilter

Ive had a lot of lessons !

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NCAQuilter in reply togerrerd

At 77, so have I!

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gerrerd in reply toNCAQuilter

They never stop coming, if you look for them, my friend.

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NCAQuilter in reply togerrerd

The fantastic thing is the opportunities are all around. We just need to keep our eyes and heart open to them!

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gerrerd in reply toNCAQuilter

👍

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Marimac

In moderation and kept under control, it can be motivating and used to be productive. (I learned that in therapy😀)

But anger that consumes us and causes us to lose control is unhealthy and can cause irreparable damage. Allowing someone to provoke you or cause you to hold onto bad feelings is giving that person your power.

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Marimac

I'm realizing that I clicked 'Add to Home Screen' on this page, so whenever I click the icon for this site, the first words I see are 'It's not you, it's them'. ❤

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gerrerd in reply toMarimac

Its not them its you, you have control,

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