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I’m going through a really tough time, I feel so worthless, helpless, useless. I officially hit rock bottom. I’m in so much pain, the closest people don’t understand what I’m going through. I’m being blamed for how I feel. I’m being judged because of what I’m going through. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. It’s not fun at all and I wish my spouse understood me. He says he’s there for me but his actions are the opposite of what he tells me. I never felt so alone as I do now. I don’t sleep or even concentrate anymore. I feel like I’m a dead person. I don’t know what to do. I’m supposed to see a psychiatrist tomorrow and hopefully they will give me something to help me. I know the antidepressants take 8-12 weeks to kick in. I don’t know what to expect and how I’m going to go through those weeks without breaking. Any suggestions? For those who take antidepressants, did it help? I feel like its impossible to feel better. Please someone share their experience with me please give me hope....

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Welcome Hurtings to this amazing forum. This was your first step in the right direction.

You will find that you are not alone in how you feel and what you experience with these

issues that no one seems to understand but others, like ourselves, who have been through

it.

Of course there is hope. This does not have to be a life sentence, it just seems so

overwhelming because you don't have the support or understanding from those

around you. It hurts, it hurts bad. The worst thing we can do to ourselves is to feel

hopeless, worthless or useless. We didn't ask for this. We should not be put down.

It isn't our fault.

The thing about this forum is that you will never be judged or put down. It will become

your safe place when you are feeling afraid and hopeless. We reach out to each other

by sharing our life's journey with mental health issues. It's a way of not feeling alone any

more.

Antidepressants do help with anxiety and depression. So much so, that for myself I was

able to get off my benzos (Xanax/Ativan) and have been on Lexapro for almost 5 years.

It helps immensely. It does take about 4-6 weeks until you reach full efficacy but so well

worth the wait. As each week goes by you will see a little difference in your mental state.

It's all about your psychiatrist finding the right drug and the right dose. Wishing you

good luck with your appointment tomorrow. This will be another step in the right

direction. I'm glad you found us. It's going to be okay. :) xx

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Hurtings in reply to Agora1

Thank you for your warm comment, I’m happy I found this group I feel so connected. And your message is on point!!!

hi hurting,when you say no one understands,well all our family of this site all to well understand,wish you all the best for you,apointments,peek

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Thank you for being so sweet

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susanv1994

I understand. First I want you to know that no matter what you are going through, YOU ARE A WONDERFUL CREATION. I have suffered from anxiety and depression issues all my life. For years, I just pushed it down last Spring, it nearly killed me. My family has been understanding to a point. But now they are wondering if I will ever be the supermom, I used to be. Taking care of everything. Depending on how long you have been dealing with anxiety and depression. Perhaps if the therapist is willing, they might be willing to discuss things with your husband. It helped us. Please remember, that this is temporary. You are not useless or worthless. You are a wonderful creation. You have value YOU are useful.

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Hurtings in reply to susanv1994

Thank you so much your words mean so much... and will the therapist explain things to my husband?

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susanv1994 in reply to Hurtings

Because of the privacy act, you have to ask them and give your consent for them to explain to your husband. But yes they should.

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Princesa_100

You should listen to the song "I'll find You" by Lecrae.

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Hurtings in reply to Princesa_100

Listening to it now thank you!

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