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Depression after bad breakup


I’ve been dealing with the worst depression for over 8 weeks now and can’t seem to snap out of it. I’m giving my family a hard time because I’m so sad and discouraged all the time. They are getting tired of seeing me so down and it’s starting to effect them. I’m on the verge of losing my job and feel anxious that I won’t be able to get back to reality. I have no desire to do anything anymore. This all happened after I got out of a relationship with a guy that was no good for me. He’s been blocked and out of my life, however, I can’t get over all the pain he’s caused where my life has been put on hold.

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Love831 in reply to LoveBear

Thanks for the support. It’s helpful to know I’m not alone.

Get some help, a counselor of psychologist

Hello heartbroken,

Don't allow a jerk to take a free parking spot in your brain.

I have had many heartaches caused by jerks. Know this... you will not die from this break-up. And a year from now, he will not matter. Feel your pain, deal with the grief and reward yourself when you have persevered through this to feeling whole again. Never love anyone who does not love you equally or more. Break-ups suck, but time does heal all wounds, both emotional and physical. To put things in perspective, thousands of people are suffering today from losing someone whom they've shared their lives with, today people are burying their mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters and even children. The pain of losing your child is insurmountable and unimaginable for anyone. Be thankful you for your health and know you will love again and he will adore you. Everyday be thankful for at least three things. Today I am thankful for my good health, my drive to return back to college and my physical strength to allow me to exercise.

Love those who treat you with respect and worthy of your love.

Together we will survive all the hardships life throws at us.

Be well.

Thank you so much for your comfort. I’ve never felt this way before and was feeling helpless that a bad relationship could put someone back so far in life. It’s best that I not compare myself to others and just heal at my own pace.

The best revenge from a bad break-up is to prove to yourself and others you are better than this break-up, laugh and smile everyday. Tell yourself, this will NOT define me. I am beautiful and worthy of love.

You got this, I believe in you.

Virtual hug,


Thanks Hope this has encouraged me not to respond to his messages. Doing the no contact to heal and move on in life. I just want to be happy again prove to myself that I can do it alone. I hope you’re doing well.

Many hugs 🤗

Block his phone number and remove him from all your social media. Do not check his social media. Bury his memory as if he left the Earth, that is the best way to heal from a controlling person who has made you feel less than worthy. If you are unable to delete and block all communication, give your phone to a friend and ask them to do it for you. You will thrive and recognize the red flags sooner moving forward in your next relationship. It is good to date a various of types than you can figure out what type of person works best for you for long term. The key is to not get too emotionally invested during the first 90 days. You need to learn as much about someone else before you divulge your secrets. Set personal boundaries and stick to them. Have your own personal standards and do not lower them for anyone. For example, you may want to tell yourself, you won't date anyone without a college degree, this standard tells you,, they have discipline and the ability to obtain secure employment.

Raise the bar on your relationship standards and live by them.

Release the toxic people from your life, it is very healing.



You are NOT alone.

Hi Love831 I have been going through the same feelings after a breakup of my marriage. I feel like part of me is missing, and I cant even move somedays. Like you said, my life is on hold.

Just know that you are not alone, and heartbreak is real pain.

Physical and mental pain. But please hang in there because time helps the pain lessen. It hurts, and its ok to feel that way. You cant shut your heart off.

All you can do is take one day at a time and someday you will feel better. Im sorry you are suffering so badly. You will feel better.

The heart will go on and you will love again. Sorry again for your pain ♥️

Love831 in reply to Kelly_xoxo

Thank you for the uplifting support Kelly. Life has so much more meaning than dwelling on the past. Your encouragement inspires me to keep trying and being patient with myself. I hope you’re doing well and able to fight the good fight. This is a battle that we too will overcome. Thanks again for reaching out and helping me realize that I’m not weak. There has to be a reason for all this pain and distress. Hoping and praying for the best 🙏🏼

Your chemicals and thoughts just got out of whack it will get better with expressing your feelings to Councellor and forgiving yourself for not getting out sooner. Love life can be confusing I really think some men just view us as furniture with flesh or something. You can know someone a decade and not really know them or know someone 10 weeks and actually know them.

Blocking the poison dude is a gift to yourself.i consider getting out going through sense of loving a person like Stockholm syndrome you just can’t believe that someone could torment you and you need to be saved it can’t be true. And you must be bigger than letting that happen so you’re upset with yourself.. but it happens often to people and you must forgive yourself immediately and if your falling it’s fine. Don’t ever let the jerk back in your life and go outside go to work and if you lose your job it’s covid time a lot of people are stressed

Hi Love831, As many have already mentioned, you’re never alone in your feelings!! I know it seems these clichè or overly repeated things people tell you after a break up can be sometimes irritating to hear or that they diminish your pain. just know that your pain and hurt feelings are so valid and you’re so right about healing at your own pace. take what others have to say with a grain of salt. it is true however that time heals all wounds, but give yourself the time you need to be sad. you’ll know when you’re ready to pick yourself back up! don’t rush your healing, take your time to feel what you’re feeling. you’ll learn so much about yourself and what you want and don’t want in life from this experience! I hope you’re doing better today and remember that even if your progress seems small, it’s still progress and you should celebrate that! :)

We are here for you! You’re definitely not alone but remember there will come something better for you. Breakups are tough but give yourself time to heal! Do things you enjoy doing that make you feel good, whether that’s listening to your favorite music, doing art, taking a bath etc.

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