Lost hope

[samjon1]

Am happy to read your posts. They really help but am in deep thoughts over here. Feeling no more hope for me to live a good social life. Because of my abnormal lifestyle I see almost everybody are keeping their peace by isolating me. I'm deeply affected. Am seeing no help

[Waiting4themoon]

Hi Samjon1,

I am sorry to hear that people are isolating you. I can relate to that. People who don't struggle with their mental health don't understand those who do and they just want an easy way out and so ignore. It is very sad.

At least on this site you are accepted and loved for the beautiful person that you are. No matter what happens you are always special and loved.

You mention that you are in deep thoughts. You don't say what they are but often negative thoughts circulate round and round in our head. The good news is that it is possible to stop or reduce those thoughts over time.

You might want to try taking a few breaths, paying attention to the feeling of your breath and then say "I don't have to listen to these thoughts, they are not all of me, they are a part of me, but not all of me". Something like that.

The idea is to recognise that your thoughts are not you. They are something that happens to you. You have the power to watch those thoughts. You have the power to decide if you want to follow a thought or not.

I know it is easier said than done. Trying to do this slowly, a minute a day even, can make a big difference.

There is a lot of help online about mindfulness. Please check it out if you haven't done so already. I found mindfulness to be so helpful to me.

Keep us posted how you are getting along.

With love,

[hypercat54]

Well the answer seems to be to change your abnormal lifestyle! Are you taking any steps to do that? Are you getting help for your social anxiety? It's not unusual to have some degree of that as we all do. Few people are as confident as they pretend to be so it's not just you.

People tend to avoid those who make them feel uncomfortable or give them a hard time. Try watching how others interact and behave with people and you might pick up some good tips.

People make friends with those they like and get on with. They want friends who make them feel good and to do things with and share experiences. If you concentrate on how they feel rather than how you do then you are part way there. x

[deborah27]

What do you mean 'abnormal lifestyle' ?

[Hidden]

Never been sure why people isolate and ignore those that need the most help and support it drives me crazy at times, I guess they don't know how to fix it or do anything about it so ignore it instead, hope things get better for you soon

[ksquig]

I’m sorry to hear you aren’t doing well! Just wanted to send some support your way!

[Hidden]

Don't give up. There is always hope. Pray, read positive quotes every day. Try meds maybe for depression or anxiety. Just keep moving and learn to love yourself. It's strange we all can show love and care for people here but we are so hard on ourselves. We need to change that. Just a thought. Pm me if you ever want to talk to someone. ☺️

[growinrace]

hi Samjon1, what are your thoughts about? I sometimes feel like I don't fit in, but I know those are lies because most of the time I haven't even tried to get to know or be around people. You are unique, we all are and I love people who are because I see wonder, beauty and a piece of the world when I come across or get to know someone. Try not to be so hard on yourself, smile big hug!!