Looking for advice

[MarktaviasK]

Hi I’m Mark my girlfriend been going through a lot she haven’t been able to sleep due to her anxiety and it kills me because I have no clue what to say or what to do to help her with the situation like I get stuck talking to her because she explains the feelings so deeply to me and I feel like I’ve never had the feeling so I don’t know what to do , so if I can get any help or tips it would be greatly appreciate!!

[Hidden]

My prayers go out to u. I too had anxiety i was put on anti anxiety meds and found a great cbt. Maybe that would help her

[MarktaviasK in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your advice !

[Hidden]

Hello Mark:

With her anxiety affecting you, you need to find a way which will benefit the both of you. You with a better understanding as to her having less anxiety.

There are plenty of medications out there to help with anxiety. So that is one direction to go. The others is talk to her more in showing you want her to be in a better state. It is difficult for the moment because she is closed in emotionally from her anxiety. You need to find a way to shine some light among her and bring some positivity within her.

Try to keep her active as well. If you notice she is no longer interested in things she used to be, that is an indication where you may need to find a professional to help her out.

I was in the same situation as you. So I understand where you stand. 😊

[MarktaviasK in reply to Hidden]

Thank you !

[ksquig]

It sounds like you really care about her. And, I'm sure she appreciates the support. Do you feel like she needs professional intervention? Meaning do you think she might benefit from medication or some form of therapy?

As someone who has anxiety, I can understand her desire/need to share the details of her anxiety with you. That said, sometimes having a professional help her work through her thoughts can be very helpful. Has she considered therapy?

[MarktaviasK in reply to ksquig]

She goes to therapy like every now and then it’s just hard because of work scheduling

[Sunnidayz1]

Just being there and listening to her and her struggles is awesome. She needs someone there just to listen. Dont feel like you have to "fix it". Men have that mentality and it's not helpful. You dont have to fix anything- just be calm and present.

If u want to understand a little bit more about what she might be experiencing do a little research online. If what she's experiencing is interrupting her daily life then it would be a good idea to refer her to a therapist or her family Dr. And there is no shame in seeking professional help.

Good luck and anytime u need to talk more, this community is here for you and your gf!

XxSunni

[MarktaviasK in reply to Sunnidayz1]

Thank you so much !

[Sunnidayz1 in reply to MarktaviasK]

You're welcome😊

[kateba]

Anxiety is one of those things that unless you are going through it it's very difficult to understand what someone who is going through it is thinking. Try to be patient and supportive of your girlfriend. Even though you can't empathize with her be sympathetic to how she feels. I go through this with friends of mine. They give me suggestions on doing things but i'm just not ready to take on some things. i talked to my friend today and told him I appreciate his concern and suggestions, but I need to do things at my pace. I would believe your girlfriend feels the same way. I would suggest for her to see a psychologist and possibly if they suggest it visit a psychiatrist and get on some medicaction

[soulsquest7]

Hey Mark! There are some great resources available too help understand anxiety. Here are some nice ones: bit.ly/2wukxUl

Hope this helps!

[English_Patient]

Hi there, you don't have to 'say' or 'do' anything, just continue listening.