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[empath06]

In 2 days I am going to see my therapist. It has gotten to the point that living with my sister; I am taking the brunt of criticism. If the way I do stuff around the house is not to her satisfaction then I get the other end of the stick so to speak. I pull my weight around the place what with doing chores and regular upkeeping of the house and yet for every thing that is slightly out of place there is an explosion around here. I think that may have something to do with the one year anniversary of my mother's death but I cannot be certain. It is just hell being on the receiving end of every other person's rage over the slightest thing. My sister is a nurse in a hospital and she supposedly is empathetic to her patients...but not with me. I am on monthly social security checks due to a seizure disorder and something called hydrocephalus. They both are connected since if you have one of those 2 medical conditions then you have the other. I'm try so, so hard to keep everything together. Okay I just had to let all this stuff out here. Thank you for reading this.

[hypercat54]

Hi sorry to hear this. I agree this could be the cause of your sisters anger but it's not fair to take it out on you. To be honest if you are getting hassled for pulling your weight maybe not try to for a while, and if she says anything just say everything you do seems to be wrong so you are not going to do it anymore. You can blame your heath. This is a clear case of you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. x

[kvolm2016]

I am sorry to read of this very difficult situation. These forums are great for doing exactly this: letting all this stuff out. I am glad to hear that you have a therapist you can talk with soon about all this. Do you feel like it has always been difficult to meet your sister's expectations or is this something that has more recently become a problem? And do her issues only have to do with the way you are doing things around the house or is she critical about you as a person?

[empath06 in reply to kvolm2016]

I am not sure whether it would be me as a person or would it be something else. When it happened to me I took it as an insult and exploded in anger at her. I don't think that got me anywhere but it was a way for me to let go of stuff that I have been internalizing. I hope to get some kind of resolution to this when I see my therapist instead of having this overtake my thinking. We will see what happens about that today when I go to the appointment.

[kvolm2016 in reply to empath06]

hope it was a good session today and that you got the insight you were looking for.