School

[iriss]

I just texted my friend and asked him if he could help me with computer programs that I have to write for school. I hesitate every time asking him specifically for help because he sometimes gets frustrated or mad at me if I don’t understand how he explains something the first time. I decided I need to ask him anyways because I need help. I texted him 15 minutes ago explaining what I needed help with and asking if he could help and all he said was “ok”.

This just makes me feel like he doesn’t want to help at all, and he always says it like that. He doesn’t seem willing in the slightest to help me, nor does he seem happy that I asked him instead of asking someone else. I feel like a burden.

[Sunandrose87]

Don't double text him ever. Ever. Go to YouTube and find a tutorial or text another friend for help

[Sunnidayz1]

Maybe he doesnt have the best communication skills? Maybe he is going through a bad time at home? Is he really your friend if he always makes you feel bad? What makes you call him a friend?

[iriss in reply to Sunnidayz1]

He never has bad communication skills in person. He might be but I don’t know. He probably isn’t my true friend but I don’t want to drop him because I don’t want to be completely alone. I know that’s bad but I keep him distanced so that I don’t get hurt.

We’ve known each other for like 10-11 years, and we spend time together in clubs. We have a few classes together too and we’ve bonded over those classes. Any time I’ve ever tried talking to him about anything deep at all he steers away from it or just says things like “yeah” “I’m sorry” “that sucks”.

I don’t really know what to do about it.

[Sunnidayz1 in reply to iriss]

Ok I understand. It doesnt sound like you should end the friendship. I think the person who posted above had a good idea: look up stuff on you tube for yourself. I'll add seek out help from other people or teachers. In the meantime, try to expand your social contacts. I can understand that u dont want to get hurt. Believe me, everyone feels that way. Try to get out of your comfort zone and reach out to the right people. Please dont feel bad that you only have one friend. It's absolutely ok but having a few people around u who you can trust can make a huge difference in your life. Good luck and if you have any questions please feel free to contact me.

[iriss in reply to Sunnidayz1]

I’ll look up stuff on YouTube. I don’t have any friends that I trust, or people for that matter. I’m just kind of alone with distant friends that don’t seem to care about me much.

[Sunnidayz1 in reply to iriss]

Good. Doing things for yourself is a great thing anyway. Just keep moving forward and reach out to people. You have your whole life ahead you. Issues that we have dont disappear in our lives unless we work on them. The work that one does to be happy in this world is sooo worth it. There is so much to learn about ourselves and others. I would advise you to talk to a guidance counselor or a teacher or anyone you can trust with feelings that you have about anything. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that!