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Hope4321
Hope4321
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After spending time with a group... e.g today me and the cousins had a bit of a girls night out ...

Since I’ve come back I’ve been picking apart my every move and word!

Just feeling embarrassed but don’t even know exactly what for...

Am I alone with this ?!

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Emily16

You are not alone. I am constantly in fear of all the dumb stuff I say. I play it on repeat for days. I worry about the impression I leave on people and I’m always scared that I’ll offend someone or come off as bitchy, which I get often because of the way I look apparently.

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to Emily16

Yeah I do it too much 😔

I had such a good time though so dunno why !!!

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Marshall64

Do it all the time. I replay conversations in my mind and cringe at all the stupid things that I said (my specialty). I rarely post or reply on FB and when I do i then delete more than half because I think it was something that wasn't funny or just dumb.

It is really bad for me at work. I work in a technical field with people much smarter than me. When I make mistakes it really stings and will bother me the rest of the day or even the weekend. For other people it seems that mistake just roll off them like no big deal.

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to Marshall64

Yeah I know what you mean! I have no advice though because I struggle myself

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gerg

I used to have those thoughts and feelings, it sucks. I challenged myself to pay attention to my thoughts about others that I interacted with. I found that I was thinking nice things about each and every one of them. This lead me to not be so critical of myself. Later I asked some of these same people if they ever have these negative thoughts, the answer was “yes”. Who would have ever thought...

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to gerg

I wish I could

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pink83737

I do it all the time! I replay every moment ugh I hate it

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to pink83737

😢 same

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to Hidden

Lucky you!!!

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to Hidden

Yes it’s really bad because I actually had a lovely time x

Shushhhh 🧠

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to Hidden

That emoji gives me the heebie jeebies ( 🧠 ) *shudders* 😑

(((Hug)))

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ami2

You were such a ray of hope to me, Hope 4321, that first day I got the courage to get on line with this site (Dec 16th). Sorry I'm responding to an old post of yours but wanted you to know that, yes, I sure do replay social situations over and over in my mind and it always brings on that "stinking thinking" that I contend with so often. Hang in there. I would like to follow your posts (if you don't mind) but don't know how to set that up. It was just good to see your name again!! Still brings a smile to my face. Thanks.

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ami2

Guess I did this wrong. I sent you a reply but evidently I sent it to myself. If you can read it great, if not let me know and I'll try to send it to you again. Thanks. ami2

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to ami2

Aw thank you for remembering me!

Did you find this site helpful at all then?

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ami2

Yes! So many of "me" out there. Don't post often but read other's posts.

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Hope4321
Hope4321
in reply to ami2

That’s wonderful I’m so happy it helps you

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ami2

I also read one you posted stating you didn't understand why you seem to help so many others (and you certainly do!) but have trouble helping yourself. Forgive the wording but that's the best I can remember of your post. Just to let you know, that's so common in other areas also. I am an adult stutter and got my first speech therapy when I was 21 and worked at Purdue University in the Audiology & Speech Science Dept. There was a grad student there helping others and had a difficult time controlling his stuttering. Don't know why that is but it's a fact... Also understand there are many therapists who help others and struggle themselves.

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