Scared 😦

[itakenaps]

My sperm donor ( I refuse to call him father or dad because he has in no way ever been one) contacted me today. Not to say hello, but to threaten to take my family to court because his license has been suspended AGAIN for not paying child support. He was controlling and emotionally abusive to my mom and has history with some gang activity. It scares the shit out of me that he is going to become violent and try and hurt us. My mom says he is all talk, but my anxiety is telling me differently. I really don’t know what to do. 😨

[gerg]

His threat is so far is non violent, if it intensifies call the police. I would also consider whether the judgement is worth keeping him in your lives.

[itakenaps in reply to gerg]

That’s the thing. He is not in our lives in any way. I haven’t seen or spoken to him in almost 15 years. Then all of a sudden he tracks me down on fb to send me this msg about taking us to court. I am just keeping documentation of the msg, I did not respond. Hopefully things don’t escalate.

[gerg in reply to itakenaps]

He is in your life if you have a child support judgement against him.

[itakenaps in reply to gerg]

He is paying back the court the interest he owes them, as I understand it.

[Hidden]

If it were me I wouldn't take his phone calls. His threats are useless right now, no way can he break you guys apart..he is in the wrong..not paying support..sounds like my birth father. I wish you peace of mind. Love, peace, light, joy & hugs for you!

[itakenaps in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. Yeah I am not responding. Just keeping a record of what he sent. 😫

[Hidden in reply to itakenaps]

Good thing to keep a record. may you have a beautiful day. Love, peace, light, joy & hugs for you!

[dore13]

Can't your mother or you get a restraining order against him? Document everything, put a recorder on your phone, one threat, he is going to jail. Never give in to a bully.