Uneasy around all people

[whirlybird5]

I have been lucky these past few months and have met some great people and made some good friends - however, even around people I'm technically close with I feel disconnected, really isolated and like a burden on their time/space. I don't know if it's all in my head or if people find me boring or if I'm just too shy etc, but I really want to open up and get closer with the people in my life and I have no idea how. I've been trying for a long time and nothing seems to be working for me, I have no idea what to say to relate to anyone even if they share my interests. My presence (internally) feels unvalued and idk what to do to aleviate this.

[Man_Down]

Such an awful feeling! I’ve been there. Even though no one (incl me) would believe i would have social anxiety, i do. Of course both of us are likely just being insecure and hard on ourselves. I finally got some help and although i hate taking pills, there is medication that can help. Good luck and keep your chin up!

[Made4Match]

Hello there!

I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I want you to know you're not alone in this. There have been a number of times where I too have felt the same. You can be surrounded by many people but at the end of the day when it comes down to it, still feel alone in your thoughts and feelings. Something that really helped me was I joined the YMCA in my area. They offer a TON of different workout classes that I enjoy. I started attending Zumba and Yoga classes and after awhile, I started to develop relationships with those around me. I've made a couple of friends from joining and it's great because we have similar interests. What are some things that interest you?

In addition, I joined a small group at my church. I don't know if you attend anywhere but that has definitely helped me a ton in my faith as well as forming connections.

Some other things I did that have helped have been writing. Writing in my own personal journal has helped me to capture my thoughts and feelings and be able to process them. Taking time to myself to truly understand my own thoughts and feelings as well as self-caring have also been huge!

I hope this helps a bit and I hope you know you have a community here who cares and supports you. You are not alone! Please feel free to message me privately if you'd like to talk more!