Don't want to get out of bed.

[zannex1972]

Has anyone gone thru a period where the anxiety makes them not want to do anything , even get out of bed. I know movement is necessary to feel better, but I can't seem to do it.

[Roxylox]

I feel like that. I just about force myself to go for a walk, but don't enjoy it. I really wish l could get up happy in the morning. I loathe getting out of bed, yet am not happy lying there either. I believe l can empathise with you.

[zannex1972 in reply to Roxylox]

Do you have feelings of guilt? I feel guilty.

[Roxylox in reply to zannex1972]

I do have feelings of guilt. My husband says I should be nicer to myself, so do helplines I ring.

[Hidden in reply to Roxylox]

hi its time of year with me lack of sunlight i feel like a dead weight in the bed and could hybernate but my cat gets me up i went in park for walk and loved it ive been inside 4 days helping my mam so was so good to get out, when she could walk out as now her foots not mended yet i made us walk out everyday, i mentioned menapause doesnt help all this hope you get on the HRT sorry for going on about it i sit indoors in sun when can too🤗

[zannex1972 in reply to Hidden]

Iam 50. Could menopause be making this worse.

[Hidden in reply to zannex1972]

absolutely i keep coming across this on here with ladies in the menapause scale im on low dose hrt patches i was recommended to stay on them even tho my hot sweats had gone in winter as i was undergoing a lot of anxiety re lifes events passed few years i spoke to a nice nurse too who said she wouldnt be able to do her job without them you can reasearch this and sleak to your doctor or better still go to a clinic if is one,

[Roxylox in reply to Hidden]

I did start on Evening Primrose Oil, but it's early days yet. Got one of my tablets slightly increased in morning to help daytime anxiety. Am on those just a few days yet.

[Hidden in reply to Roxylox]

i think you need the proper stuff i tried natural stuff our hormones are goung it needs replacing abd hrt keeps the collogen there too younger skin etc everything gets thinner 🙄

[LilyAnnepuppy]

I need a lot of help getting out of bed. I need my psychiatrist. My therapist. My support system. My meds. And meditation and prayer. Only then am I able to face the day.

[Jenooski]

I go weeks without doing dishes. I only take a shower once a week. I use delivery services because I can’t leave the house.

[zannex1972 in reply to Jenooski]

I get it. I have not really been out of the house or out of bed really for over a week. I could potentially lose my job over this which adds to the anxiety. What do you do to get through it?

[012703060610 in reply to zannex1972]

This is a post I think many relate to. I am jolted out of bed with physical issues that just lead to chronic morning anxiety and stress. I have to wake up really early (4am) so that I can get in a head space to do the morning routine with kids. I cannot believe I need three hours before I wake them! I also (thank you Jenooski) shower maybe 2x a week. Nearly every morning they get on the school bus, I look at my Drs appt calendar (am on disability), likely cancel a few and go back to sleep. I do all online shopping...literally...my husband has anxiety about the boxes. He is working so hard for all of us and especially for his health insurance that covers me. Ugh. Post COVID has made it very easy to isolate and hide. RE Menopause-my oldest sibling just started the real deal. She is a physician herself. She hasn't really suffered mental health struggles but now she is literally retiring and on several meds for anxiety. I am not quite there yet, but know from both my sister now and what my mother experienced, menopause can mess with the mind like no other.

[zannex1972 in reply to 012703060610]

Thanks. I relate. I pretty much only shop online, too. Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on how you look at it, I do not have any children to take care of. Just me and for over a week I have been usable to do that. Not going to work, not eating let alone showering. I have an appointment with my psychiatrist in a couple of days and I'm afraid she is going to be unsympathetic.

[012703060610 in reply to zannex1972]

If that happens, you need a new one. However, I understand the profession enough that some of the docs can get hard on folks. I have an ex so I do get week on and off with kids. Those weeks the kids have no idea what is gong on with me. So easy to get into a loop on your mental health impacting physical or is it the other way! I was able to take kiddos out for dinner tonight...they are 10, 9 and 5. They had a blast eating Hibachi. I had a few true smiles I think. I worry that if they had a really good Dad that I would give up as a Mom. Since they don't, I know how much they need me. I can't have them raised by him or his side of the family....crazy, racist, narcissistic people. Wow, that was hard to type. I hope that one day I can be totally open with my kids so they too can come to me for their mental and emotional needs. It's so sad to think how many of us walk around daily with our feelings inside and no one truly knows the anguish we may be in.

[zannex1972 in reply to 012703060610]

That's awesome you had quality time with your kids and it made you smile. My boyfriend knows about my anxiety issues but it's never been this bad. He doesn't know what to do and that makes me feel bad which makes it that much worse.

[Scarlett28]

I find myself zoning out for hours. I think I need help with menopause too but I’m afraid of cancer risks I’ve read about.

[zannex1972 in reply to Scarlett28]

I think I may have been in denial about being in menopause. I think I need to find out if that's the piece to this I have been missing. I've always had anxiety and depression, but not to this degree.

[Scarlett28 in reply to zannex1972]

same here

[zannex1972 in reply to Scarlett28]

One the one hand if it's menopause maybe I can find something to help, but one the other hand the thought of menopause gives me anxiety.. are you doing anything at all about the menopause?

[Scarlett28 in reply to zannex1972]

I am not doing anything for menopause but I’m ready to try something. I’ve always had anxiety but it’s so much worse. I just asked for advice on women’s forum.

[zannex1972 in reply to Scarlett28]

That's a good idea. I have not explored the women's forum yet.

[Hb2003]

I sometimes do that when I am on my thing . what motivates me to get up is exercise it's sometimes hard to do though when I do not feel like it

[TailWags]

Yep. Still in bed now.

[Kelkel00]

yes, some days it’s a struggle to do the most basic things!

I have children though, so I have to do at least the minimum!

I have such terribly low motivation sometimes!

[dutchgirl71]

I struggle everyday with getting out of bed! My bed is the only place I don’t have triggers!

[faucet]

Nearly every day, you are not alone.

[AnxiousSilver]

Sadly, I struggle as well getting out of bed, and then when I finally get out of bed, I "sometimes" beat myself up for taking that long to get out of bed.

It's sometimes an easier said than done type of thing.

[CarlottaD27]

I can relate to this when i'm feeling really anxious / depressed.

One thing that kind of helps is really trying the night before to think of five positive things i want to do the next day, sometimes even really small things like having my favourite drink. Then really focus on them and try and have them front of mind when i wake up, so that there's something to wake up for x

[dutchgirl71 in reply to CarlottaD27]

yea, I do that too!

[Daisy425]

this is so hard for me. When I’m experiencing an anxiety spell I find the mornings the hardest because I know I have the whole day to face. Take it one step at a time. Say some positive affirmations. I like to tell myself I can do hard things and that I am safe. Take it one step at a time