Need someone to talk too

[tamka38]

My depression and anxiety is making me feel worthless right now I feel less than a mother and a girlfriend am missing out on so much and am very irritated right now am been fighting for a long time

[wellnessplease]

Me too. You aren’t alone. Reading your post made think I should find a doctor who specializes in anxiety. I now realize I can’t just wish it away. It is debilitating. It is seemingly very treatable. I hope you find peace. I am sure you are loved and your inner circle of people want to see you content and enjoying life as much as you do.

[tamka38 in reply to wellnessplease]

I been fighting anxiety for more 10 years on off or more than that I stop counting

[JEG325]

I promise you are not worthless. We are all here for a specific reason. Do you have family and friends in your life? I bet they don't think you're worthless. I sure don't think you're worthless. The rest of the people on this site don't think that either! Tamka, you just have to find your purpose. Look at your hobbies, ineterests and skills. Find something you can use to help others. You will find that you feel a lot more purposeful once you do. I have graduated from just answering people's post and motivating them to also writing poems and song lyric poems for posting on the site. Do you write? We could always use 1 more person in our group. Our secondary purpose is as a support group for our small group of members which currently has 7 people but could house up to 10! We also have just started skyping. Group video chats might be in our near furture. We found a reason to get up each morning and I'm willing to bet you can too!

[tamka38 in reply to JEG325]

I use like to write,and I love to cook. And use to love to leave the house and be around my family. But lately I haven’t left the house in months.

[Indigojoe in reply to tamka38]

Have you every considered that you might be really angry about something, and that the depression and negative self talk is from that?

There is always a core belief that sets up that voice that keeps telling us all the bad stuff.

A lot of times you are actually re playing what someone else said to you from years ago.

Hope you are feeling better now.

[tamka38 in reply to Indigojoe]

U know, am always trying to be the good person and I never really thought about

It but am angry and I never wanted to admit it to myself or others and my mom and boyfriend use to say a lot of harmful things to me.and I had a lot of things that happen to me too starting at age 5 and i dad was around until I turned 2 and went to prison and died in prison when I was 8

[Indigojoe in reply to tamka38]

BINGO, go with this............IF this is your core belief , you have to get really mad, and admit this to yourself, hit the shower for the "ugly cry", and ACCEPT how you feel about this, Accept how it was not fair, you didn't deserve it, and Accept ( like Clair Weeks teaches us about anxiety) and be OK with the fact, the "little you" was strong and got you through it!

and look at that little person, and say, "thank you" for pulling me though it, and love her, and hold her and protect her.

And when tomorrow comes, be proud that you made her proud of who you have become!

[tamka38 in reply to Indigojoe]

That sounds like Louis Hay 45 minutes change your life. And I have paid for a depression and anxiety hypnosis meditation and it talk about the little person inside of u too. Thanks

[wellnessplease in reply to tamka38]

I am so sorry. You sound so kind. Just a thought, have you had full blood panel and allergy testing done recently? Thyroid? Epstein Bar? Food allergies? Vitamin D deficiency?? Or other things like that? You don’t need to answer. This was just my fleeting thought. I totally relate to anxiety and depression but maybe something else is triggering it for you. Sometimes the tests are less expensive through a naturopath. If you find anything curious you can always share lab work with your doctor. Sorry if that is annoying. I am just finally starting to do all of this myself. I hope you get some peace.

[tamka38 in reply to wellnessplease]

I think my doctor done a full blood panel a couple months ago. He say my thyroid was ok and my iron was very low. And I been taking vitamin D for a couple of days now

I see a ENT on the 20 Th of the month

[loveandlightseeker]

Sorry you are feeling this way. You are certainly not alone. Our thoughts often make us so much harder on ourselves than we need to be and I totally empathize. Praying for you and all who are struggling!

[tamka38 in reply to loveandlightseeker]

Thank u, I got contact by administrator because of using G*D so I be scared to

Anything like that and now it had me

Questioning my faith and made me feel

Bad and I been reading my Bible and

Doing Bible plans on the app and doing meditation and deep breathing exercise and writing what am grateful for and I think am going through menopause and all just losing it right now

[loveandlightseeker in reply to tamka38]

Wow, I am so sorry to hear that. Don’t ever feel bad about your faith. I think it’s so important to have a strong set of beliefs and mine is Christianity. I still struggle like everyone else here. I also understand the need for this site to be inclusive and respectful of all belief systems- it’s a great community. Feel free to message me anytime you need to or if you want to share a bible verse or anything and I will do the same! 💜

[tamka38 in reply to loveandlightseeker]

Awwwww thank you 🙏🏾 that means a lot to me

[anxiousgirl7]

I’m here hun

[tamka38 in reply to anxiousgirl7]

Hey

[anxiousgirl7 in reply to tamka38]

Your amazing ❤️

[tamka38 in reply to anxiousgirl7]

Awwww thank you. Some to u. I think anybody who go through what we go

Through is amazing and brave and awesome 😎

[Quest4peace]

So sorry you’re having an especially tough time right now. Do you have a good therapist? I’m currently getting inpatient treatment. You were I believe the first to welcome me to this site this week, and you really lifted me up I wish I could do the same for you right now. Hang in there please. I can’t believe an administrator harassed you about religion. That seems so wrong. I will pray for you now

[tamka38 in reply to Quest4peace]

Thank you

[aaronm]

You know you can talk to me anytime. You've done so much for me it breaks my heart to know your not feeling well.

[tamka38 in reply to aaronm]

Awwww You’re amazing guy. U have help more than u know and I greatly appreciate it. And I will always be here for you. How is Cassie?

[aaronm in reply to tamka38]

She's doing good right now. Her mood is good.

[tamka38 in reply to aaronm]

Yes to prayer 🙏🏾

[Hidden]

I'll chat to you. I don't know how good I'll be as I'm very low myself. But thought I'd offer

[tamka38 in reply to Hidden]

Hi how are u?

[Hidden in reply to tamka38]

Quite low today, but content to chat to others who need to talk

[tamka38 in reply to Hidden]

While am here to help u right since, you’re low. Am here helping others now too.

[tamka38 in reply to Hidden]

When I made the decision to make happiness my No. 1 priority every day,

I became aware of a whole new world of possibilities.

Healthier choices instantly presented themselves.

I learned how to make myself feel better when times were tough,

simply by shifting my thoughts and focusing on something that would lift my spirits.

I began to create habits and develop mindsets that enabled me to live more in the moment and enjoy myself during the process.

That doesn’t mean that I’m happy 24/7. I was well aware there would always be challenges.

My point is that you can experience unease, sadness and pain at times and still be happy overall.

Your overall happiness is determined by what you choose to focus on in the world from day to day. That’s the key.

[Hidden]

I went to my GP over a month ago and he said he'd set up a safe guard meeting as I'm having post stolen and phone calls made by the person I live with. A month later nothing. My Dr no longer answers my texts and I'm wondering if I should change Drs so that's what's getting me down at the mo

[tamka38 in reply to Hidden]

Maybe u should look into changing your doctor. Do u take medication? And u might need a therapist too. You’re not alone keep reaching out. Am here for you

Send u a hug 🤗 and good vibes and positive energy

[Hidden in reply to tamka38]

Thank you. Therapy hasn't been suggested for me. I think I'll have to look into changing doctors, although this isn't how I wanted it at all. Peace to you x