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Life seems pointless

Lily_Raven
Lily_Raven

I am new here. Crisis line gave me link to this place, I am not sure how helpful it will be for me, to be honest. I am almost 41 yrs old. I am adoptee who is deaf single childless with no family support and dealing with fibromyalgia among other health issues. I can’t work full time because of health issues. I have no one, just my 12 yrs old dog. I feel when I meet new people I would be seen as burden, inconvenient. I can’t give much, my body won’t allow me, my emotions is overwhelming. I am under extreme stress and my anxiety is very high because of financial issues. I hate raw cards that was dealt to me. I have suicidal thoughts but no action planned, but risk is high when my dog pass away someday. I just don’t want to merely existing and surviving day to day but I don’t see a way out of it to achieve dreams I have.

PS I wish there are live chat on this site. It is easier for me one on one in real time.

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Welcome lily raven

Thank you

hELLO IM REALLY SORRY THAT YOU FEEL LIKE BUT ITS UNDERSTANDING WHY YOU FEEL LIKE THAT BUT WITH LOVE AND SUPPORT AND FROM THIS AND OTHER SUPPORTS FROM HEALTH UNLOCKED YOU WILL FIND CARING PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT YOU AS A PERSON AND WANT TO HELP YOU HELP YOURSELF AND ONCE YOU GET COMFORTABLE WITH THE GROUPS YOU WILL FILL RIGHT AT HOME AND ALSO WHEN YOUR DOG KNOWS THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG SO SMILE AND BE HAPPY AND HAVE A NICE

Good Afternoon Lily ,

My name is Mike a pleasure to meet you . I just want to say , that I am new here as well , there is a lot of people who understand , feel , and even are going through the same pain and emotions you are experiencing . There is a lot of support and love from many different people here and they are very warm and welcoming . You called the help line that was the 1st step and now this is the 2nd step , you recognize you need and want support , help , maybe even a friend and advice your on the right path . Take some time to reach out to people , read some posts and articles of other people , I genuinely see great people here and I hope you do as well . Welcome and smile your amongst good people.

Lily_Raven
Lily_Raven in reply to mjp9348

Thank you

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Maybe try crisis chat 741741 for live help

I am trying to find purpose for long time. For those of you who don’t have supportive family or your own family, how do you find purpose?

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Reach out to others who have come here for reasons you can relate to.

I have isolated myself to the point that I felt I was no longer needed. My passing would have no effect on anyone.

But know that you have the power to help somone in their darkest hour by replying to their post.

I posted and waited to see if anyone cared.

They did.

I reached out to others and responded in kind.

At our lowest point...we can matter to somone at theirs.

I am a stranger with my own crises, but I love and care about you.

People do care.

Hi Lily my name is Don. I know how it feels to be alone and isolated. I struggle with it everyday. Like you I have no close family or friends (mostly my fault) and have a lot of anxiety. And I find it hard to find purpose to, I’m sorry I don’t have an answer for that. And I also have thoughts of suicide, but only thoughts. This is a great community filled with people who thoroughly understand what your going through, and genuinely want to help. I’m here if you want to 'talk'. Please take care of yourself, people do care.

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Hi Lily. It's terrible to hear of your situation. I've had many moments in my 67 years when I've felt alone and isolated and pointless. The worst moments have been when I've actually been in people's company yet haven't been able to connect with anyone being so much inside myself.

I have had the advantage of fairly good health and had a career which I'm sorry you lack. Work brings social company, purpose and esteem. I'm retired now, so most of that's gone.

What's good for you is that you can reach out, as you have done, by joining this community.

I hope you get great benefit from it.

There will be low points in your experience. In those moments I tell myself that I am alive and conscious and I can see, hear, smell, taste and feel things and it's possible in those to find a stillness born from a distraction from my dark thoughts and emotions. This is "Mindfulness".

Enjoy this community, but I also suggest looking looking into Mindfulness CBT. I note another member recently saying they'd discovered this and the joy it gave them.

You don't always have to be isolated, but you don't have to be always with somebody.

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Hi and welcome to you. I do hope it helps being here x

Thank you all for your thoughts/suggestions.

Hi. I'm a adoptee, 48 from the U.K struggling too. How are you doing now? If you wanted to chat email me on becky.mason@zen.co.uk.

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