*POTENTIAL TRIGGERS*
Things feel foggy and uncomfortable. I read a story today from a person who was gang raped and wanted to kill herself for 16 years. Then, 4 years ago, she spoke to a media outlet about her story. Before today I'm not sure she'd shared what made her speak out. In her words, it wasn't courage; it was desperation. (I don't really wanna debate the semantics here) She felt there was nothing else to do, that she couldn't continue on without sharing her story.
On Twitter I @ed her regarding my own struggles (PTSD, anxiety, avoidance, severe abandonment, alcoholism) and cited her admission of desperation as an inspiration for me regarding my own recovery--which is just beginning. (I only admitted to myself that I am an alcoholic about a month ago) She messaged me and said that there's no shame in asking for help. Logically I understand that the shame isn't mine, but I still feel ashamed regardless. It's up to me to release what I can't change.
But, after reading her short reply, it really hit me hard: she was validating my pain. As I type this now I'm starting to cry again, because someone who has been through unspeakable horror and come out of the darkness on the other side validated me.
This isn't the first time something like this has happened--a friend or someone getting through to me, to my soul, to the tender spot behind my anger and suffering. When it happens, I sob and sob and at least feel exhausted afterward.
It's happening here too, but what's also happening is the fogginess I mentioned. A lack of mental sharpness. Like I could read a sentence and have it mean the exact opposite of what it actually means, or miss key information or not assimilate it. I'm also angry and feel like I could destroy everything, though of course I won't.
Not sure why I'm writing. Maybe just to write. I have a lot of positive techniques (I haven't had a drop tonight) to help me that I've learned in multiple seminars and mental health programs.
I think maybe I...no, I *definitely* want someone to sit with me in my suffering and just let me cry until I can't cry any more. That should take about 8 years
It also makes me think that I could possibly find others in recovery groups or AA who could validate me (and I them).
Not sure what else to say. I don't have many close friends who live close. A good close hug from someone wonderful would be great. Maybe I could increase the chances of that happening if I go to groups (recovery or otherwise).