Lost

[Katelan24]

I’m just not sure what to do. This guy came into my life forced me to get all these animals. Then just leaves me with all these animals and what am I suppose to do? I just don’t understand why I have to be suffocated by all this responsibilities when I didn’t even ask for it. I just don’t understand what to do. I feel so guilty for not doing stuff with these dogs. Not giving everyone enough attention, I don’t even give myself enough attention. I just can’t win.

[faulhallen]

Is there a reason he didn’t take them if he forced you to get them? I know people don’t like the idea of giving animals away because you don’t know what kind of home they’re going to but could you give them away? If you’re struggling and the dogs are making it worse I think you need to focus on yourself and at least get the number down to a manageable amount of animals.

I’m sorry you feel suffocated by all of the responsibility. I hope you figure things out soon!🙂

[Katelan24 in reply to faulhallen]

My dogs are what saved my life... I couldn’t possibly get rid of them.. they know me and my issues and they know when to be there. I just don’t know how to be selfish every once and awhile. Ya no?

[faulhallen in reply to Katelan24]

Part of me jokingly wants to ask what this selfishness you speak of is. I spent 5 years of my life working 50 hours a week, going to grad school and helping raise two children, one with special needs. So I know how hard it is to put yourself first but it’s something you need to do.

If you can’t do anything big have you considered something small? Like once a week or so if you find yourself in a gas station and think “I’d really like that snickers bar...” for example. Buy it and don’t feel guilty about it. Like beer and time alone? Sit outside and drink a beer. It’s a nice day and you’re walking your dogs? Why not walk an extra five minutes?

It’s important to remember that small indulgences can add up. Taking even a few minutes to yourself can go a long way. Just forgive yourself in advance. It’s hard but you can do it 🙂

*edit* please know I’m not trying to make you feel bad by telling you about that time in my life. It’s to provide context. I felt like I was losing my mind the entire time. I was absolutely miserable.

[Katelan24 in reply to faulhallen]

Thanks!

[faulhallen in reply to Katelan24]

You’re welcome. If you ever want to talk or just need to vent my inbox is always open. I hope you do something nice for yourself today 🙂